Season 2 Episode 7: Parental Trauma & Partner Choices with Agatha Mwende

Parental Trauma is often defined by what a child perceives of how they were treated or spoken to - but it also appears in what a child grew up watching. There are two ways it could go - completely avoid it successfully OR go in trying to run away from through the same situation without recognising it.That is the story of author, Agatha Mwende whose life flipped and turned when her single mum got married to a man who was polygamous. The trauma she observed watching her mum cry herself to sleep after having arguments over her step father's infidelity got her afraid thinking every man will cheat or end-up polygamous.In the twist of it all she shares with our host Kalekye that how she built an idea that turned out to be the illusion of forever - her desire to have a solid relationship and family put her into a state that led her to trauma in her own relationship. Agatha's story gives perspective that we may often be subconsciously influenced by the dysfunction we witness. If you have an urge to crack your parental wound or just share what you've learnt about them, it's time to get in touch with us and come to the show. Email us on [email protected] and we can host you next. Follow us: IG - @conversationswithkalekye & @kalekyemumo TikTok - @therealkalekyemumo