Self-Care Confidence: From Survival to Flourishing with Coach Kendra Lee

What if self-care wasn’t selfish… but essential?In this heartfelt conversation, I’m joined by Kendra DeVito to explore the role of self-care in healing after intimate betrayal. Together, we unpack the guilt, exhaustion and survival-mode thinking that can make caring for yourself feel impossible — especially when you’re overwhelmed, caring for others, or simply trying to get through the day.Kendra shares pieces of her own healing journey after multiple D-Days, raising five children and spending many years without access to trauma-informed support. Through her story, we explore how self-care became more than bubble baths and coffee runs — it became a pathway back to clarity, nervous system regulation, confidence, voice and self-worth.This episode is a gentle invitation to reconnect with yourself in small, meaningful ways.In this episode, we discuss: Why self-care can feel selfish after betrayal  The connection between self-care and nervous system healing  How betrayal trauma disconnects us from our own needs  Tiny, practical acts of self-care that actually help  Why “what makes me happy?” can feel like such a difficult question  The role of self-talk in rebuilding confidence  Self-care during demanding seasons of motherhood and overwhelm  Receiving “glimmers” of goodness in everyday life  The importance of both self-care and support from others  Moving beyond survival toward flourishing Memorable moments from this conversation:"Self-care helped me find myself, use my voice and gain confidence.” — Kendra“Sometimes self-care is simply slowing down enough to receive the moment you’re already in.” — Jane“I want to go beyond healing and flourish.” — KendraPractical self-care ideas mentioned in this episode: Journaling  Walking in nature  Yoga or stretching  Lighting a candle  Drinking coffee slowly and intentionally  Taking deep breaths  Listening to music  Spending time with safe people  Watching something funny  Baking  Painting or colouring  Reading  Bubble baths  Resting without guilt  Turning off your phone  Buying yourself flowers  Watching a sunrise or sunset  Letting yourself cry  Celebrating small wins Connect with Kendra:Kendra offers support groups and coaching through her Ruined to Radiant program.Website: https://ruined2radiant.comInstagram: @coachkendraleeConnect with JaneIf this episode encouraged you and you’d like more support for healing after betrayal, visit Quiet WisdomIf this conversation resonated with you, please consider rating, reviewing and sharing the podcast with someone who may need encouragement today.Gently does it with your beautiful self. 💛Send Jane a noteConnect with Jane at Quiet WisdomJoin the Support Group Waitlist