Self-Sabotage

Resources: National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (1-800-273-8255) Available 24 hours everyday Additional mental health resources: https://www.ascanyc.org/resources -- Referenced in this episode: - Writer, professor, editor, and commentator, Roxane Gay - specifically her book, Hunger (http://www.roxanegay.com/hunger/) - Research professor at the University of Houston Graduate College of Social Work, Brené Brown (https://brenebrown.com/) Brené Brown Ted talks here: https://www.ted.com/speakers/brene_brown -- Self-Sabotage Topic reading- please find here with other topics and it is also pasted below: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5bb621ac34c4e254dd6315e9/t/5bd78e08f4e1fc0b2cbf8ab8/1540853257345/ReaderCmeeting.pdf Where low self-esteem is the primary feeling of most adult survivors, self-sabotage is the corresponding behavior pattern. Self-sabotage is any kind of conscious or unconscious behavior that undermines our successful functioning in the world. Self-sabotage may range from buying a "lemon" of a used car, to losing one's checkbook, to becoming involved with an alcoholic partner, to engaging in life-threatening activities. We may allow ourselves to be exploited by a boss or engage in physically harmful or potentially dangerous activities such as cutting or unsafe sex. Typically, one's pattern of self-sabotage is closely related to one's personal issues and family history. If we grew up in an addictive family, our self-sabotage may be driving under the influence. If we grew up in a violent family we may tend to get ourselves beaten or injured, physically or emotionally. We might find ourselves losing money, getting swindled or having poor money management skills. Self-sabotage is often linked to our instinct to become re-victimized in a way that continues or replicates the past abuse. Sometimes the self-sabotage is not directed against ourselves, but rather against someone we love. Reversing self-sabotage begins with building awareness of everything we do in our daily existence that sacrifices our happiness, satisfaction and productivity