Setting Boundaries With Family Without Trying to Change Them | Holiday Family Support Kit (2/4)

This is 2/4 of my Family Support Kit Series I´ve created for you to navigate your family with more ease over the holidays (or any other time tbh).In this episode, I share with you my favourite formula for setting boundaries and give you a couple of relatable examples on how to use it. I also make a really important point on family members you won´t be able to change that I feel like is often overlooked when it comes to setting boundaries with your family.As always, I hope you enjoy the episode and deeply hope it supports you in this most wonderful but at times most challenging time of the year.Sending you love!RELATABLE EXAMPLES - BOUNDARY SETTING WITH FAMILY MEMBERS WITH NON-VIOLENT COMMUNICATIONOBSERVATIONS, FEELINGS, NEEDS, REQUESTS1. Conversation Dominated by ParentObservation: “I notice that the conversation often turns back to you.”Feeling: “I feel drained and exhausted.”Need: “I need space to process my own thoughts.”Request: “Would it be okay if I take a 10-minute break and then return?”2. Sensitive Topic Comes UpObservation: “When the topic of my career comes up, the conversation gets tense.”Feeling: “I feel anxious and stressed.”Need: “I need calm and safety in our conversation.”Request: “Can we pause this topic for now and talk about something lighter?”3. Overwhelming Social EnergyObservation: “I notice we’ve been around a lot of people today without a break.”Feeling: “I feel drained and overwhelmed.”Need: “I need quiet time to recharge.”Request: “Do you mind if I step outside or go to my room for 20 minutes?”4. Repetitive Criticism or JudgmentObservation: “I notice comments on how I do things.” (how I look, how my dating life is going, etc.)Feeling:“I feel tense.”Need:“I need to feel my choices are respected.”Request:“Could we focus on enjoying our time together?”5. Persistent Over-SharingObservation: “I notice the conversation often focuses on your challenges.”Feeling: “I feel exhausted and unheard.”Need: “I need a balance in our conversation.”Request: “Could we also talk about neutral or fun topics for a while?”6. Escalating ArgumentObservation: “I notice the discussion is getting heated.”Feeling: “I feel anxious and upset.”Need: “I need feel calm and safe.”Request: “I’m going to take a short break and come back to the conversation when I feel calmer.”7. Feeling Overwhelmed by RequestsObservation: “I notice there are a lot of expectations of me during the holidays.”Feeling: “I feel stressed and pressured.”Need: “I need space to manage my energy.”Request: “Would it be okay if I step away for a moment to rest before helping?”8. Triggers from Past ConflictsObservation: “When past conflicts are brought up, the conversation gets tense.”Feeling: “I feel uncomfortable and stressed.”Need: “I need calm and stability.”Request: “I would like to change the subject or take a pause when that happens.”9. Talking Over YouObservation: “I notice I’m not getting a chance to share my thoughts.”Feeling: “I feel sad and frustrated.”Need: “I need to feel heard.”Request: “Could we take turns speaking so I can share my perspective too?”~ LINKS ~My website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.nora-ring.com/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Instagram: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.instagram.com/nora.ring/⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠TikTok: tiktok.com/@nora.ring~ PRODUCTS & FREE OFFERS ~⁠⁠⁠1:1 Coaching Options⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Deep-Rooted Self-Love Hypnosis Library⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Core Needs In Dating Worksheet ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Free Self-Love Quiz I What Area In Your Life Needs More Self-Love? ⁠⁠