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EPISODE · Dec 17, 2025 · 1H 2M

Sex After Kids: What the Hell Happened? And What To Do About It.

from After Bedtime with Big Little Feelings

You’re touched out. Your brain is fried. And sex feels like one more thing on the list. In this episode, Kristin and Deena sit down with sex therapist Vanessa Marin and her husband Xander Marin to talk honestly about what really happens to intimacy after kids, and why so many loving couples feel disconnected during this stage.This conversation goes beyond surface-level advice and digs into the real blockers to desire: exhaustion, resentment, mental load, body changes, and the pressure to “get back to normal.”You’ll learn:• Why “low desire” is often a pleasure, energy, and safety problem, not a you problem• How mental load and invisible labor quietly shut down intimacy• What your partner is really asking for when they initiate sex (even when it comes out clumsy or annoying)• Why going back to the honeymoon phase isn’t possible - and what’s available instead• Simple, realistic ways to reconnect when you’re already depletedIf you’ve been missing closeness but don’t know how to get back there, or don’t even know where to start... Nothing is broken. You’re not failing. You’re just in a season no one talks about. And this episodes gives you real tools, real relief, and a clear path forward.This episode may contain paid endorsements and advertisements for products and services. Individuals on the show may have a direct, or indirect financial interest in products, or services referred to in this episode.Discover all of the ways a Chrysler Pacifica can make your life and your family's rides easier and more enjoyable by visiting chrysler.com/pacificaHead to WAYFAIR.COM right now to shop all things home. Wayfair. Every style. Every home.Save an extra $25 off on Crib and Kid Mattresses on top of their holiday sale at avocadogreenmattress.com with code BLFUse code BIGLITTLEFEELINGS at jonesroadbeauty.com to get a FREE cool gloss with your first purchase!If you want to feel good about what's in your baby's bottle, get 10% off with code FEELINGS at hibobbie.com.Get 20% off of all orders with code BLF at myvitalvitamins.com. Produced by Dear MediaSee Privacy Policy at https://art19.com/privacy and California Privacy Notice at https://art19.com/privacy#do-not-sell-my-info.

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