Sex Feels Like Nothing. Your Pelvic Floor Knows Why.

Send us Fan MailWhat if low desire, painful sex, and feeling nothing during intimacy have nothing to do with your hormones — and everything to do with your pelvic floor holding your nervous system's unfinished business? Dr. Juls draws the triangle no one has drawn for you: pelvic floor, nervous system, desire. And explains why releasing one unlocks all three.A September 2025 systematic review and meta-analysis published in Sexual Medicine confirmed that pelvic floor training produces large, significant improvements in arousal, orgasm, and sexual satisfaction in postmenopausal women. But the reason it works is not muscle strength. Dr. Juls explains how a nervous system locked in survival mode creates chronic pelvic floor tension, how that tension silences sensation and shuts down desire, and why Rosemary Basson's research on responsive desire means "I never feel like it" is not a verdict — it is a physiology problem with a body-based solution.You will leave this episode understanding what has actually been happening in your body. You will receive a somatic Sacral Floor Release practice you can begin tonight. And you will have three journaling questions that move the work from your ears into your nervous system. The complete framework lives in Are We Gonna Have Sex or What? — available now at juliemerrimanphd.com.Listen now. Try the Sacral Floor Release practice tonight — eight minutes and an exhale is where it starts. Send this episode to a woman who has been told her desire is the problem. It isn't. And for the full nervous system roadmap, grab the book at juliemerrimanphd.com.They told you the fire dies at 50. They lied.Desire Reset Guide is your 72-hour erotic reboot — where you'll unlock the arousal pathway buried in your nervous system, reclaim the raw hunger you were taught to suppress, and rewire your body to crave pleasure again.Not because you're broken. Because you're ready to burn.Desire Reset GuideBefore you go, if any part of you has quietly wondered whether your body is broken, whether the spark is just gone, whether something is wrong with you… I need you to hear this: it isn't, and you're not. The science says so. Go listen to Episode 29: Your Body Isn't Broken, The Truth About Desire After 50. It's the episode where I walk you through exactly why desire goes underground after 50 (it's not what your doctor told you) and what actually brings it back up. Your body has been protecting you, not betraying you. Episode 29. Press play. Your homecoming starts there. Dr. Juls | Sexy After 50 PodcastNew episodes Wednesdays and Fridays, 5am CSTThis podcast is for women over 50 navigating low desire, sexual disconnection, and body changes who want nervous-system-informed insight into libido, aliveness, intimacy, and embodied pleasure so they can move from tamed ...