Sex, Queerness, Deviance and Diddy

Let's talk about HOW we're talking about Diddy. Though Sean "Diddy" Combs is in jail on a variety of SA allegations, a lot of social media content has reduced his alleged behavior to "being freaky" - raising a larger conversation about society's understanding of SA, consent and it's complicated relationship with consensual sex. Our resident kink enthusiast, Queen breaks down how sex and kinks get harmfully conflated with acts of violence and SA, while J. gets in their Black church kid Telfar about the influence of cultural Christianity, domination & control on community concepts of sex and deviance. Also the kink spectrum, group sex, the closet queer to r*pist pipeline (that's not a thing), queerness and possibility, and more. Watch the video version of this episode on Patreon! https://www.patreon.com/posts/sex-queerness-118518621?utm_medium=clipboard_copy&utm_source=copyLink&utm_campaign=postshare_creator&utm_content=join_link 00:45 GloRilla's PR savvy 4:09 So Diddy is in jail... 6:15 Exhibit A: Diddy is not from Harlem 9:10 How social media is engaging with the Diddy allegations 10:47 Being "freaky" vs being "a r*pist" 12:52 Conflating sex with deviance is a tradition 14:06 The kink spectrum 18:46 Queerness, non-monogamy and Black cultural Christianity 22:53 How a cultural context of control & domination impacts sexual beliefs 27:13 Not the group sex girlies being surprised by consent 35:35 Closeted sexuality is not a pipeline to being a r*pist 38:00 How disregarding whole groups of people allows abuse to persist 41:27 Kendrick's "Not Like Us" and how it frames SA Teawithqueenandj.com DONATE Paypal: https://www.paypal.com/paypalme/teawithqj Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/teawithqj This episode was created, hosted, and produced by Naima Lewis Muhammad & Janicia Francis, with editorial support from Jonathan Luna, Opening song by Ohene Cornelius