Sexual Abuse At New Zealand Boarding School | AEM #129 Mark Staufer

 PLEASE NOTE: We talk about sexual abuse in this episode which some viewers may find triggering. Mark Staufer is an experienced ghostwriter and copywriter with a passion for helping clients tell their stories authentically and powerfully. He specializes in preserving personal legacies, organizing complex life stories and crafting engaging narratives. He is also the writer of The Lost Boys of Dilworth, TVNZ, a prime time docu-drama, which recounts Mark's own experiences at the notorious New Zealand boarding school during the 1970s. Could you please share some of your journey. What was the catalyst to writing The Lost Boys of Dilworth?Areas to talk about:Mum saying, “If you really hate it, I promise you can come home.”Feeling terror at the schoolSchool: “most emotional experience I've ever had.”Dorm: constantly watchedCold/ A lot of crying – sobbing at night/ Dorm raid – beatings – becoming pretty fearful.Bullying ever presentLike Lord of the FliesPunishments – cold baths in front of the teachers. - 16mAttempted suicide – no one's got your back – no one to go to 19mNo where to escape from pain and violenceIt felt like a prison – island of hostility and violence - 20mFrench leave – running away – sat under a bridge25m – spent a lot of time crying – sympathetic ears didn't existBeing sent to Coventry – no one is allowed to talk to you – a ghost – no one acknowledges you.Mrs Morgan – kind teacher - “If you couldn't control the children, there was something wrong with you.” “No kindness at the school.”Leave day – sense of dreadGrooming – train tracks – praying together – coming out of tutors late at night8 paedophiles at Dilworth – Mark sexually abused in the chapel – many boys raped – the doctor knewDisciplined for speaking up – telling liesSchool was a magnet for paedophiles50m - Betrayal – Mum – no way out unless expelled55m – Getting expelled age 14Friend committed suicideConsequences – drugs, alcohol, crime/ self-destruction/ never fixed relationship with mother#lostboysofdilworth #dilworth #nzboardingschool #boardingschoolsyndromeTo connect to him on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mark-staufer-7624b115/ ---Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross For FB: https://www.facebook.com/pierscrosspublic For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community Many blessings, Piers Cross http://piers-cross.com/