Shame and discouragement: listener follow up to 15 Jan podcast

Follow up to 15 Jan podcastI listened to your answer to my question and I must admit that I've been reeling in a bit of a shame spiral. I may not have articulated it well, but my question was about seeing more within myself, not about how I could change them. I'm not at all going around telling my family that I know better and here's what they need to do, or judging them. What's happening is that I'm silently noticing the Grandchildren develop an identity that is based on the premise that their emotions are wrong, and that they're somehow faulty. Before I began this exploration, I probably wouldn't have even noticed the conditioning taking place, I would have just been lost in it without question. But now it's easier to see the conditioning happening, in real time, and it's hard to watch sometimes. So when my Grand Daughter says it's time to take her medicine, by not saying anything it feels like I'm just agreeing that, yes - you do need help because something is wrong with you. When in reality I can see her perfection.Are you saying that if only I were more enlightened I'd know just what to say? Or that I just wouldn't care and it would never bother me? Or that since I have times of suffering about it, that I'm not able to be present to honor, respect and listen to them? I'm feeling a bit discouraged by your answer because I have been looking within, and suspect that I'm never going to be enlightened enough. Jan 15 podcast 'How to Intervene'