Shame from other people's actions: listener question

In today's blog you say"This shift from shame, the lowest and most painful of experiences of existence to the blissful sanity of no-doer is, I believe, the reason why enlightenment is such a powerfully transformative experience." I can see this within the context of a something that "I" have doneWhat about something that "another person" has done? Something I had no agency or control over."Me/Control"I sometimes (rarely now) feel ashamed about putting too much money into my business for too little impact."Other/No control"I have felt anger towards my birth mother for not living me enough to keep me.I think this anger was the flip side of feeling ashamed at not being good enough to keep