社交：有什么提升个人魅力的小技巧

What techniques can help me improve my charisma?Andrew Ferebee, 7-Figure Entrepreneur | High Performance Coach | Podcaster1. Make Perfect Eye ContactEveryone knows that eye contact is important, but few people understand how to do it effectively.Typically, people either make too little eye contact and end up looking scared and anxious.Or they make too much eye contact and look like the sort of person who has to personally introduce themselves (and their misdeeds) to all of their neighbors when they move into a new area.A good rule of thumb is this.If you are speaking, make eye contact 80% of the time.If someone else is speaking to you, make eye contact only 60% of the time.This will increase your perceived social status and ensure that your eye contact makes you seem charismatic instead of creepy.2. Ask More Questions and Speak LessPlain and simple.People are more interested in themselves than anything else on the planet.By asking more questions about their life, dreams, and aspirations and speaking less you will make yourself seem more interesting, make them feel important, and prevent yourself from having to come up with witty remarks and banter during the conversation.If you ever hit a dead end in a conversation, ask a question and then nod, say “Interesting” and then “Tell me more”.Works like a charm.3. Maintain Excellent Posture and Take Up More SpaceCharismatic people have strong posture.Period.Think about the most charismatic person you know.Are they typically hunched over in conversations? Do they shrink up to make themselves appear smaller?Or do they stand tall with their shoulders back, OWNING their space and commanding respect?I think you know the answer.Keep your shoulders out, your back straight, and your posture strong.Own your space and have excellent posture and it will work wonders for your charisma.4. Repeat People’s Names Back to them When You First MeetAlthough you don’t want to come off like a used car salesman, repeating people’s names back to them is a powerful way to build instant rapport, connect with someone, and prevent yourself from forgetting their name.Don’t overdo it, but be sure to repeat their name back to them at least twice during the first conversation.For example.Me: Hi, I’m Andrew.You: Andrew?Me: YupYou: Good to meet you Andrew, I’m Sam.That’s it.5. Speak Slowly, Clearly, and ThoughtfullyA hallmark of charismatic individuals is that other people listen when they speak.However, you can’t expect people to listen when you speak if you are constantly blurting out random crap and speaking faster than a radio ad.When you talk in social settings speak clearly, slowly, and with deep vocal tonality.Think before you speak and make sure that every word coming out of your mouth is meaningful.If you are the type of person who only speaks when they have something important to say, people will naturally shut up and listen when you open your mouth.6. Dress to ImpressWhile the majority of charisma comes from verbal and nonverbal communications, there is a third aspect to charisma that people often overlook.Style.Charismatic people dress to impress and wear clothing that represents their personal status and confidence.This doesn’t mean you need to rock a 3 piece suit everywhere you go.But you should make sure that you are well groomed and wearing clothes that fit properly and are stylish.7. Make Appropriate Physical ContactIf you overdo this one it will come off as creepy and weird.If you get it right, you will build rapport with people faster than anyone else and be the most charismatic guy or gal in the room.Tap people lightly on the shoulder to emphasize a point. Maintain a handshake for just 1–2 seconds longer than normal. Pat someone on the back while delivering a compliment.Be appropriate and respectful of other people’s space but don’t be afraid to break the touch barrier quickly and regularly.8. Smile Genuinely (And Slowly)Most people smile too quickly or disingenuously.Smiling is a powerful tool for building charisma but it needs to be executed properly.When meeting someone, wait to smile until after you’ve shaken hands and made eye contact.When someone says something funny, slowly let out a radiant smile.When making eye contact, smile softly and genuinely.The more genuine and heartfelt that people believe your smiles are, the more powerful they will be.9. Educate Yourself on Social DynamicsAs with anything in life, if you want to become more charismatic then you must study charisma and learn from the best.Watch TV shows with charismatic main characters and take notes about how they conduct themselves.Read books like Influence and 92 Tricks to Talk to Anyone.Educate yourself massively on social dynamics and charisma and you’ll be 10x farther ahead than the majority of the population10. Always Prioritize YourselfTHE most powerful and charismatic individuals in the world prioritize themselves.I don’t mean that they talk about themselves all the time or gloat incessantly.But that they value their time and attention and give it away slowly.If you are interrupted in the middle of a conversation, ignore the interrupter and finish your train of thought.If someone tries to get your attention, finish what you are doing before acknowledging them.Give your attention away sparingly and it will seem more valuable.Hope these quick tips help.Stay Grounded, Andrew