She Lost Herself Trying to Be Perfect… Then Everything Changed | Candice Lyn

In this deeply raw and transformative episode of the ASQ Podcast, Dr. Jessie Ferreira sits down with Candice Lyn — author, coach, and creator of Awaken — whose journey from people-pleasing, disconnection, and survival mode to self-trust and inner peace reveals what it truly means to come home to yourself. Born and raised in a small town in Utah, Candice grew up in what she describes as a “normal” family. But beneath the surface… life was already shaping her. After her parents’ divorce at 16 and the devastating loss of her older brother, something within her shifted: A deep, unconscious belief formed — I am not safe. For over a decade, Candice lived disconnected from herself… navigating life, marriage, and motherhood from a place of survival — not presence. Becoming a mother at just 19… Candice built her entire identity around being “the perfect mom.” She did what many women are taught to do: She gave everything to everyone else. And slowly… she lost herself. She opens up about: • Living with hidden emotional wounds despite a “normal” upbringing • The impact of losing her brother and feeling unsafe • Becoming a young mother and losing her identity • The pressure of perfection — and how it affected her children • Being a chronic people-pleaser, always shrinking to keep peace Everything changed with one heartbreaking moment. When her daughter said: “Mom, I’m sorry that all I’ve ever done is disappoint you.” That sentence shattered everything. Because Candice realized — it wasn’t her daughter who needed to change… It was her. This episode explores: • How subconscious “codes” shape your life • The nervous system patterns behind fear and people-pleasing • Why perfectionism is rooted in deeper wounds • What happens when you finally choose yourself • How inner shifts transform your relationships To stop abandoning herself… and start choosing herself — no matter the cost. What followed wasn’t just change… It was transformation. From chaos to peace. From anxiety to alignment. From survival… to self-love. Today, Candice is the author of Awaken — and is helping others break free from subconscious patterns and reclaim their true identity. This episode is for anyone who: • Feels stuck in repeating patterns • Struggles with people-pleasing or identity • Carries unresolved emotional wounds • Feels disconnected from themselves • Is ready to live more authentically Candice’s story is a reminder that: You don’t lose yourself overnight… but you can find yourself in a moment of truth. The most powerful decision you’ll ever make is to choose yourself. Connect with Candice: Website: https://thefrequencylab.to/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/candice.shepherd.125 #ASQPodcast #SelfAwareness #HealingJourney #Mindset #PersonalGrowth #InnerWork