She Thought Her Husband Needed to Change. Then God Changed Her.

In this episode, I’m joined by Mary, a Christian wife and mom of five who shares how God transformed her marriage by first transforming her.After nearly 20 years of marriage, Mary knew something needed to change. Conversations regularly turned into conflict, cold wars could last for weeks, and she found herself anxious about her husband’s decisions around work, money, parenting, and more. She genuinely believed she was trying to help—but began to recognize how much fear and control were affecting the way she related to her husband.Then she found the Intimacy Skills and decided to give God six months to completely change the way she was showing up in her marriage.And He did.Mary shares the practical changes she began making—expressing gratitude, apologizing for disrespect, learning to receive, getting off her husband’s paper, and surrendering even her self-care to God.We also talk about what happens when you stop trying to manage your husband and begin trusting God with the things that were never yours to control in the first place.In this episode, we talk about:How Mary went from weeks-long cold wars to feeling like she and her husband were on the same teamRecognizing when “helping” your husband is actually coming from fear and controlWhy gratitude changed not only Mary’s husband’s experience, but her own heartLearning to receive love instead of criticizing the way it arrivesThe hilarious Costco coat that became a symbol of a much deeper transformationHow reconnecting with your own desires can bring greater intimacy to your marriageStaying on your own paper when your husband is tired, upset, or strugglingSurrendering self-care to God instead of making it one more thing you have to manageThe surprising connection between receiving, joy, surrender, and trustHow the Holy Spirit can transform your marriage as He transforms youMary’s story is such a beautiful reminder that you don’t have to wait for your husband to change before something changes in your marriage.Sometimes the transformation begins with a simple prayer:Lord, change me.