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EPISODE · Jun 12, 2026 · 29 MIN

She Was Different Before Kids — What Actually Happened to Your Wife

from Dad Starting Over · host Dad Starting Over

Your wife changed after kids. You've felt it for years — the distance, the exhaustion, the version of her you remember from before that seems gone.She's not gone. She's buried.In this episode I break down what actually happens to women after having children — the hormonal shifts that suppress desire for years (not weeks), the identity collision that nobody warns her about, and the "touched out" phenomenon that makes her feel like her body isn't her own.I also share a personal story — a trip my wife and I took to Austin — that showed me exactly what was buried under all of it. And what it actually takes to bring it back.This isn't about fixing a dead bedroom overnight. It's about understanding what's actually happening, stopping the mistakes that make it worse, and learning to cultivate the conditions where connection — real connection — becomes possible again.Because a good marriage after kids doesn't look like the honeymoon. It looks like an EKG. There are spikes. Real ones. Your job is to learn how to make them more likely.📖 Get the Dead Bedroom Fix: https://deadbedroomfix.com🤝 Join the Help For Men Brotherhood: https://helpformen.com/join📩 The new Dead Bedroom Fix App: https://studio.com/ralph/deadbedroomfix?c=bGibj96r

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