She’s In There, B*tches | Finding the Confidence You Were Born With

(00:00:00) The Question: How Do I Become Confident? (00:04:42) Delete Shame First (00:08:34) The Five Pillars of Real Confidence (00:32:55) Returning to the Four-Year-Old You Confidence isn’t something you build. According to Bexx and Noie, it’s something you were born with.In this episode of Unpacked & Unfiltered, they challenge the idea that confidence is earned, built, or faked. Sparked by a listener asking how to become a confident woman, they unpack the truth: you were already confident before shame, comparison, religion, relationships, and survival patterns taught you to shrink. They explore what it takes to remove that shame to a delusional degree. Through hilarious stories, unfiltered honesty, and practical insights, they share the five pillars they believe rebuild confidence from the inside out: keeping promises to yourself, creating emotional safety, separating identity from roles, trusting your body, and giving yourself permission to take up space. This episode is a reminder that the most confident version of you isn’t someone new, it’s the version of you that existed before you learned to doubt yourself. Chapters [Start] The Question: How Do I Become Confident?: A listener question sparks a deeper conversation about whether confidence is built or remembered.04:42 Delete Shame First: How shame, comparison, and the need to be chosen erode confidence and why removing them is step one.08:34 The Five Pillars of Real Confidence: Self-trust, emotional safety, identity beyond roles, body awareness, and self-permission.32:55 Returning to the Four-Year-Old You: Reclaiming play, desire, and self-expression by reconnecting with who you were before the world told you who to be.Links and ResourcesConnect With & Follow UsUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieTikTokUnpacked and UnfilteredSunnybexxMommaNoieYoutubeUnpacked and Unfiltered SunnybexxMommaNoie