识人：有什么阅读人心的小技巧

What are some interesting tricks toread a person you just met?JoshFechter, Helping students become purpose-driven creators @hustle.link/founderUpdatedSunShe brushes her hair.You say, “Hey, I think there’ssomething next to your eye.”Here’s the secret: There’snothing there.In seconds, you made her feel alittle self-conscious.If she brushes her hair again,then you know she’s feeling even more self-conscious.What’s going on?She can’t stop fidgeting.She starts responding to herprimate instincts.If you continue to express littlenegative details about her, then her feeling of self-consciousness can go intoan endless spiral. Yikes!If it does spiral, you know shedoesn’t have a high emotional IQ.Why?It’s called “grooming.” Whenpeople feel self-conscious, they brush their hair, scratch themselves, orfidget.At that moment, you have theupper-hand.Look for these tiny details withwhomever you talk with because it signals that they respect you, like you, orfeel uncomfortable.Here’s the hard part: Knowingwhich one.That comes down to a few smallsignals.Make a joke, then lightly touchtheir shoulder or elbow.How do they respond?Do they laugh with you, continueto “groom” themselves, or simply smile?·       Ifthey laugh or smile, then they like you.·       Ifthey groom themselves without laughing or smiling, then they’re uncomfortable.Why is this an important skill?If you analyze someone quickly,then you can make better decisions faster.In turn, you’ll have morefruitful relationships, do better business, and understand yourself more.So, the next time you’re talkingto someone, don’t just analyze them, analyze yourself.