Shut Up If You're Not Going To Do Anything About It

sander shops all the top-term insurance companies to save you money get started at sander.com i've been married for 25 years and um i don't work at the time i'm taking care of my grandson which my husband totally you know is on board with that but i get no money and i have to ask for it and we are debt-free uh we owe nothing and i just feel like anything i say he doesn't want to take my advice or anything like i feel like we need to sell our house now because it's a bigger house we don't really need all the room and we could sell this and we have a really good life i feel like um it's like a dollar instead of his wife oof how can we help well i just i don't know i mean what should i mean we ended up separating like two years ago when i found out actually what he was worth what we were like i don't know anything if he was to pass away tomorrow i wouldn't know what to do i don't know what to make account i have no access to anything my name's not on his business my name's not on his debit you know card i can't use a debit card and we've been married for 25 years i'm like you know and it really aggravated me when we separated because my attorney you know gave me all this information on you know what he's all right and i was just like i feel like i deserve it you know more where's the marriage now i work together and i take care of my grandson i can work if i you know and i've even said do you want me to work he's like no i want you to take care of our grandson you know i think it's wonderful that we can do that but i don't get paid for taking care of my grandson so i'm going to always ask him for money does he give you money when you ask what's that transaction he does yeah he does he only gives me money for what i need like i want to get groceries he'll give me like two hundred dollars i'm like two hundred dollars i'll buy anything you know and my fear is i'm gonna get up to the counter and not have enough money and have to pay everything back and i know he's got the money to give me that's what you know it makes me so aggravated at him well what happened over a two year or you separated two years ago what happened as a result of separating because it doesn't sound like anything has changed i haven't no and honestly i feel like why are you not still separated if nothing changed i know well financially it was so expensive about having to pay attorney base which now he had to pay me seven hundred dollars a week alimony during that time but i had to get a place to live so i didn't know how expensive things was because i was you know we didn't pay no debt so i went from having no debt to having like you know three hundred like three five hundred dollars a month that i had to pay you know for my rent so you went back to jail and because it was too expensive to be free that's what's what i'm hearing oh yeah i just love them so much it's crazy so why did you call us i'm so confused what do you want us to do well i just feel like am i in the wrong for wanting you know no you're not in the wrong but you're not doing anything about it i know that's why i call you get i can't do anything about it you gotta do something about it what can i do well i think you've got to decide if you want to be married to someone that treats you this way and you're gonna have to sit down my recommendation would be that the two of you sit down with a good marriage counselor and that bubba here's for the first time in his 25 freaking years that he's mistreating his wife i don't care what he says you actually care what he says but i don't i know so you need to not care what he says you need to go see a marriage counselor because he sucks as a husband he's a horrible husband i feel like i'm great if i had to go to the doctor yesterday you're just gonna talk my arm off and do nothing i can tell exactly what's gonna happen with you so you gotta decide what you're gonna do okay and quit telling me stories about him are you gonna actually get on the phone and call a marriage counselor and go sit down with one you need to do that today and if you don't do that quit telling people stories about him shut up live with it okay if you're not gonna do nothing about it shut up about it but if you're gonna do something then we'll pray for you and back you because and yes you're correct honey that that the situation is weird and he's not a good husband he's mistreating his wife and the problem is he's probably not a bad guy he's probably doesn't even know how to do it he probably doesn't know how to be a good husband he thinks he's taking care of you he may be that dumb and so you know we're gonna have to educate him and teach him that you know this is this is emotional financial abuse dude and so you need to involve your wife in the decisions let her have the dignity of being one of the two adults in the household and but that's a marriage counseling thing i can't dictate that i can't have a magic wand over here to tap him on his little head and say that's it dude now you're magically healed i can't do that from here but you're gonna have to work on it and i don't think you're gonna talk about it all the time yeah you've married a control freak and then you've let him get more and more control over 25 years then you summoned up some guts which i admire two years ago but then it ended up being a pump fake yeah you just pump fake or he called your bluff he played to your greatest fears is my guess i know the details and you caved and you convinced yourself that i love him so much and i don't think that's the case that's enabling that's just bull crap so i love him so much i'm willing to be abused yeah come on he's warped i don't think he's dumb i think he's warped because he's really unhealthy i'm not attacking him i'm not making excuses for him but you've got to shake him he needs to be shaken yeah if this guy was my buddy i've been boxing his ears man i'd be giving him a hard time that'd be fun that'd be an interesting conversation wouldn't of course he wouldn't have been my buddy because he wouldn't have that's true sander is the best place to find term life insurance to protect your family visit sander.com for quotes today