思考：过度思考正在毁了我的生活，我为何会这样，我该如何应对？

Overthinking is ruining my life - to the point where I overthink myself out of living. Why do I do this and what should I do?For most of my life I've avoided living .I spend most of time in my room (I'm 30) and hardly ever leave it .I do suffer from severe social phobia and depression and have been through severe abuse in my life but I do naturally overthink anyway and and the abuse has just made it worse.Lukas /ʃwenkendik/I want to present you with two strategies to overcome this gigantic monster you grew over the years.1. Keep overthinking to the point it makes you absolutely sick and tired. You started this, now finish it. Get so involved in this overthinking that you are making yourself absolutely sick.Push your thinking as far as it goes. Get it all out of your system. Cry, scream, do whatever you have to do until you say enough is enough.If you do this beware, you will find yourself in a very, very low spot! And that’s great! Get as low as you can.This negativity will push you to your limit. You have to commit to a new life. If that means going down to rock-bottom then go there, and come back up stronger than ever!The only way you will come out of this cycle is if you finally decide that you are done living this life, but you have to commit yourself fully to this. No more passive lifestyle, no more sitting in your room, no more distractions.You get in life exactly what your standards are and what you hold yourself to. If you hold yourself to being a overthinker that is doing nothing with their life, then that is exactly what you will get.But if you hold yourself to a greater standard then you will receive everything that standard upholds.You gotta commit to a better life, and the first step to starting that is to get so emotional that it leads you to a life-changing event. Get so lost in your fear, anger and sadness that you must do something about it.Should is not going to cut it any longer.I challenge you to stay in your room for 2 hours without doing anything. Do not turn on the computer, do not turn on the music, the TV and do not open a book. Just sit there for 2 hours and think.This will be the hardest, worst and best 2 hours of your life.2. Meditate for an hour a day until the end of the year. The other way to /stɒp/ this monster is by slowly suffocating it instead of putting a sledgehammer to its face.If way number one is crushing it with a sledgehammer than this is suffocating it with a very soft pillow.Your thoughts come from fears and worries inside of you. Meditation attacks exactly that area of your life.When you meditate you learn to /stɒp/ thoughts, one by one. You deal with the problems inside of you one by one and you start improving one step at a time.Start this journey today and meditate for the next 50 days for an hour a day. That is all you must do.If you do this until the end of the year you will have gained the ability to silence your thoughts instantenously. You will watch the thoughts go by like clouds in the wind instead of chasing them down into the pits of the abyss.Your mind will grow quieter by the minute and you will face your inner demons one by one. A lot of days will come where you do not feel so good, but that is okay. You will stay there with those same recurring thoughts until the demon is beat and then you will await the next one.This path leads you on a rollercoaster ride of ups and downs. Instead of having one crash and then slowly climbing back up you will have a journey that leads you uphill with a lot of rabbit holes that you must work through.But at the end you will come out with a clear head, a stronger heart and the will to take life into your own two hands.Whichever way you choose, the result will be the same. Both paths lead you on an intense journey of self-discovery.Either way, you have to start this journey. No one can force you to and no one can tell you to keep going. I can only tell you what you will find and what is at the end of the path. But you have to walk it yourself.Don’t think whether this is right or wrong, smart or dumb… you have done that all your life and that has lead you here. For the first time I want you to feel the choice.Stop listening to your head and follow your heart.What is it you feel you need to do right now?