Single In Our Marriage

We found out there's almost no data on babies who survive 25 minutes without a pulse. Turns out we're it.This week Rachel and Stephen put each other on the stand, married-couple-court style, running through guilty-or-innocent questions about hiding from their kids, fantasizing about being single, and who actually farts in front of who after 16 years. Then the episode pivots hard into the real story behind their "single in our own marriage" verdict: Mila's HIE birth injury, a stat C-section, 25 minutes with no pulse, and the therapeutic hypothermia and DNR conversation that followed. They close out by walking through what co-parenting a medically complex child would actually look like if they weren't married, and why almost no published data exists for a case like Mila's. ⏱ CHAPTERS0:00 Intro1:19 Pretending to Be Asleep2:57 Headphones as an Escape7:54 Volunteering for Errands9:40 Hiding in Your Own Home12:42 Secretly Relieved to Leave Town16:32 The Toilet Question19:07 Please Don't Ask Me Anything20:19 Have You Ever Been Jealous24:18 Fantasizing About Being Single26:46 The Verdict28:34 Getting Married Young: Pros and Cons33:50 Frontal Lobes, Football, and Falling in Love40:55 Closer Because of Mila's Birth41:28 Inside the Operating Room45:32 Why There's No Data Like Ours46:08 The DNR Conversation No One Talks About55:49 What If We Were Co-Parenting Mila New episodes weekly on Apple Podcasts and Spotify. If you listen on Apple Podcasts, leaving a review helps more families navigating trauma, special needs parenting, or hard seasons find this podcast — and the community around it. Download your free Get Helped and Be Helped Checklist here: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.resurfacepodcast.com/downloads⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Find us on TikTok: @⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠resurfacepod⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find us on Instagram: @⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠theresurfacepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find us on Facebook: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ResurfacePodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Email us: [email protected] our website: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠www.resurfacepodcast.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Find us on Threads: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.threads.com/@theresurfacepodcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ Resurface is a marriage and family podcast hosted by Rachel and Stephen Scroggins about surviving medical trauma, mental health challenges, special needs parenting, raising a medically complex child with intractable epilepsy, partial deafness, and special needs, navigating life after stroke at 37, and finding humor in the middle of it all.New episodes weekly.If you're a parent of a medically complex child, a family member or friend of a child with special needs, a stroke family, an epilepsy family, or anyone trying to keep your relationships and your sense of humor intact while life keeps throwing emergencies at you, you're in the right place.Edited with Movavi Video Editor: https://www.movavi.com/ Edited with Movavi Video Editor: https://www.movavi.com/ Some supplemental music licensed through Envato Elements