So You're Dating A Walking Red Flag... Now What?

Send us Fan MailEver been blindsided by learning what someone really thinks about you? This raw, unfiltered episode dives into a jaw-dropping Reddit "Am I the Asshole" story that left us both stunned—a woman who overheard her boyfriend of eight years telling his friend he feels "disgusted" when he kisses her and wishes he was with someone else. Yet somehow, she's asking how to make him fall in love with her instead of walking away.The conversation spirals into a deeper exploration of relationship red flags that many of us miss or ignore. From partners who constantly blame their exes for everything, to the slow isolation from friends and family, to those who give and withhold affection as a form of control—we break down the warning signs from our own experiences and mistakes. We discuss the fine line between showing interest in your partner's hobbies versus completely changing your personality to mirror theirs, and why constant small lies eventually create irreparable cracks in your foundation.What makes this episode particularly powerful is our honesty about our own past relationships. We share stories about manipulative exes, the yo-yo effect of being someone's backup plan, and how trauma responses can make it harder to recognize unhealthy patterns. We challenge the cultural messaging that relationships should be difficult or that you need to "complete" each other when the truth is that the healthiest connections happen between two already-whole people who enhance each other's lives.Whether you're recovering from heartbreak, questioning your current relationship, or trying to build better patterns for the future, this episode offers both compassionate understanding and the tough love you might need to hear. Because sometimes the most important relationship advice isn't about how to make someone love you—it's about learning when it's time to love yourself enough to walk away. -Support the show