Sober Short - Play the Movie Forward

Tribe Sober - inspiring an alcohol-free life! Welcome to our fifth "Sober Short" - an interim mini podcast to supplement the weekly Tribe Sober podcast. I’m going to kick off this series by taking you through our Tribe Sober Toolkit – this toolkit is just one of the things that we share with you during our regular Zoom workshops – click here for more info. Our workshops have been a gamechanger for so many people - if you want to kickstart your sober journey then sign up today In this episode During the first 4 Sober Shorts we looked at the first 3 Tools in our toolbox Tool 1 was CONNECTION  “Connection is the Opposite of Addiction” and if you’re serious about getting sober then you need to connect with others on the same path – So if you’re not yet a member of our tribe please check us out on tribesober.com “join our tribe” to read about the benefits of membership Tool 2 was “GET MOVING” We all know is that exercise is “good for us” and many many people exercise daily but they also drink on a daily basis – sometimes excessively – ditch the drink and keep exercising and you will be amazed at how much fitter you will get! Tool number 3 was all about:- Tool 3 was "BUILD YOUR EMOTIONAL STRENGTH" All about “learning to sit with our feelings” – instead of trying to chase them away with alcohol – alcohol is the “easy button” and enables us to bypass difficult emotions We have to “get comfortable with being uncomfortable as Tribe Sober coach Lynette says or as Glennon Doyle says:-  “First the Pain, then the Rising” Tool number 4 was all about:- Tool 4 was MINDSET About changing your thinking – about drinking The global alcohol industry spends trillions on marketing every year to convince us that we need their product.. The wine industry in particular has done a stunning job marketing to us ladies during the last 2 decades– Many women now believe that drinking wine is essential for a full and happy life. We have to de-program ourselves — a nice analogy is to think of our subconscious mind as a computer — we need to reboot and load some new software. Today's Sober Short is about "Visualisation" Visualisation is SO powerful – just think of the wine witch -  introduced to us to in her book Sober Diaries The liquor industry have been marketing their product to us for decades by showing us beautiful images of attractive women holding their wine glass and looking happy That’s why associating wine with an old hag is so powerful – and not just at the beginning but as we progress in our sobriety we often hear our members telling us that the wine witches voice is getting fainter and fainter and some evenings she doesn’t show up at all! We’ve even introduced a new character to our tribe recently – she’s called Moderation Mary – we’ve not managed to draw her yet but you can be sure she will not be a pretty sight.. Don’t let Moderation Mary break your heart we say… Don’t waste your time hanging out with Moderation Mary After all once we’ve crossed a line with our drinking there is no going back – we need to quit and then learn to enjoy our alcohol free life Another tool which is about visualisation which works well for many is to “play the movie” forward… Finally one of the visualisation tools I use for coaching is called the two paths:- If you keep drinking – one thing you can be sure of is that you will not be drinking less – it just doesn’t work like that – you’ll be drinking at least a bottle of wine if not more.. that’s 7 bottles of wine a week when the low risk limits is one and a half.. – putting your mental and physical health at risk.  Apart from that your life will feel pretty much the same – if we are sapping our energy and motivation with alcohol night after night then its unlikely we’ll decide to make any significant changes – you will just stay stuck.. If you stop – you probably cannot even imagine it, you have no idea what your life would be like without alcohol in it.  After helping hundreds of people to ditch the booze I can give you a rough idea….  The first 6 months will be tough, as you change your habits and “do the work” – and then life will just get better and better.  You will feel better, you will look better and you will have the energy to make major life changes if you need to. So there you go – 3 ways to use visualisation - the wine witch, play the movie forward and the two paths So that’s our Sober Short for today – 3 Visualisation Tools If YOU’ve got a favourite tip that you’d like me to share on Sober Shorts then just email it to me [email protected]  And don’t forget to check out our weekly podcast – its full of recovery stories and expert advice– its called Tribe Sober and it comes out every Saturday morning. 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