👀🧒 Somebody younger than you is copying everything you do. They just haven't told you.

You are already somebody's example. You probably don't know who. And you definitely didn't consent to it.In this episode, Koke gets into something that keeps him up at night, the weight of being watched by people who are copying you without saying a word. The teenage boy in your compound. The younger cousin. The kid on the street who sees you as proof of what adulthood looks like.He opens with something most men never admit: that his anxiety about dating and having children isn't about not wanting those things. It's about knowing he isn't finished yet and not wanting to give someone an unfinished version of himself to model their life on.He talks about his own experience being shaped by older boys in university. The role of male mentorship in shaping young Nigerian men when their fathers aren't close enough to fill that space. And his father — a man he never once saw lie, cheat, womanize, or even drink — who set an example so quietly that Koke is still trying to live up to it at 28.The episode ends with a question worth sitting with: what does the next generation look like if you are the example?No do-overs. No second drafts. Just the version of yourself you're living right now — and whoever is watching.—Share this with someone in their 20s who needs to hear it. Comments on Apple Podcasts and YouTube.