Spiraling Into Control with Lauren Tobey

In this episode of The Kelly Healing Project, I’m joined by Lauren Tobey — author of Spiraling Into Control and creator of the Spiral Framework and Spiral app — for a deeply honest conversation about nervous system healing, patterned survival, shame, and why healing is rarely linear.Lauren breaks down the four stages of the Spiral Framework:• Ashes — shutdown, identity erosion, and protection through disappearance• Ember — awareness begins, but the nervous system still lacks capacity• Flame — action, movement, and identity reclaiming• Rise — integration, self-authorship, and expanded capacityWe also explore the “shame spiral,” emotional shutdown, survival responses, and how the nervous system can disconnect us from our emotions when it no longer feels safe to feel.This conversation is a powerful reminder that you are not broken — your nervous system simply learned how to keep you alive during stressful or overwhelming experiences. Healing is not about becoming someone new; it’s about creating enough safety within yourself to reconnect to who you already are.If you’ve ever felt stuck in repeating patterns, emotional numbness, burnout, or the gap between “knowing better” and actually feeling different, this episode will deeply resonate.  Learn more about Lauren, her book, and the Spiral app at www.laurentobey.com.Support the showThank you so much for being here and listening today.If this episode resonated with you, I invite you to explore more at www.thekellyhealingproject.com or reach out to me directly at [email protected] healing, your growth, and your power truly matter—and I’m so grateful you’re on this journey.