Spiritual questions that people ask in therapy: If I don't get along with my father, how am I to relate to 'my father in heaven'?

Today's question: We speak in the Torah and in the prayers about G-d being our father in heaven. I don’t have a very good relationship with my father he was aloof and uncaring sometimes and at other times he was highly aggressive towards me. I find myself in moments of panic and fear thinking that G-d is just a bigger stronger version of that, and he doesn’t care about me. When I think about this deeply, I become very confused because on the one hand I know that in theory G-d is good, and G-d loves me and at the same time I feel something completely different. How do I make sense of this?