Starting With the Man in the Mirror | No Hard Feelings...Kinda | Season 2 Episode 4

Why does childhood trauma repeat itself?How do you know if unresolved trauma is affecting your behavior?And what happens when you realize you might have become the person you once feared? In this episode of No Hard Feelings…Kinda, we talk about childhood trauma, emotional healing, therapy, and personal accountability with podcast host and former chef Lee Risby. Lee shares his experience growing up with physical abuse, struggling with self-harm, and building the kind of emotional armor that many people develop when they don’t feel safe. Over time, that armor turned into anger, attitude, and behaviors that began affecting the people around him - including in hismarriage and family. Then came the moment many people avoid their entire lives:the realization that unhealed trauma doesn’t just hurt you… it can hurt others too. In this honest conversation we talk about:• How childhood abuse affects adult relationships• Why trauma can turn into anger, control, or toxic behavior• The psychology behind self-harm and emotional coping mechanisms• Chef culture, masculinity, and emotional suppression• Recognizing when you’ve become the bully in someone else’s story• Divorce, therapy, and radical self-awareness• How to take accountability without drowning in shame• Learning how to give and receive love after trauma• Healthy coping strategies for stress and emotional regulation This episode is about breaking cycles, facing uncomfortable truths, and learning how to become someone you actually like being. Also, because this is No Hard Feelings… Kinda, we still manage to laugh - because if we don’t laugh, we’ll all end up sending our therapists voice memos at 2AM. If you’re interested in mental health, trauma recovery, therapy, self-improvement, or personal growth, this conversation will resonate. And if halfway through the episode you find yourself thinking,“Wait… am I the problem?” Don’t worry.That’s not a crisis.That’s self-awareness.🎧 Listen now:New episodes of No Hard Feelings…Kinda drop regularly featuring real conversations about mental health, relationships, trauma, and the chaos of being human.childhood trauma, trauma healing, therapy conversation, breaking generational trauma, emotional healing, mental health podcast, self awareness, toxic behavior psychology, abuse recovery, trauma and relationships, accountability and personal growth, therapy and self improvement, narcissistic abuse recovery, healing after divorce