Stefani Goerich: Minding the Pleasure Gap: Bridging Kinky & Vanilla Sex

Send us a text & leave your email address if you want a reply!Stefani Goerlich, professor, author of “Sprinkles,” & a sex therapist, discusses her journey into the field of sexuality, working with students & patients. In this conversation, Stefani Goerlich discusses that while kink & BDSM have become more mainstream in recent years, many "vanilla" people still find the concept off-putting or disturbing. However, consensual exploration of power dynamics & erotic psychology can profoundly deepen intimate connections in relationships. She shares a powerful story of helping a couple navigate the difference between consensual kink & abuse. TAKEAWAYSUnderstanding what is normal and healthy in relationships requires unlearning societal biases.Consensual kink and BDSM can be misunderstood and stigmatized, but it is important to differentiate between consensual kink and abuse.Maintaining boundaries as a sex therapist is crucial to ensure the therapeutic relationship is not influenced by personal experiences or biases.Exploring & striving to understand each person’s erotic identity is important for couples with differing desire levels. When couples want to open their relationship, clarifying their motivations is important. Partners supporting someone with trauma should reframe their role as holding space and providing support.EPISODE LINKSStefani's Podcast - Securing SexualityStefani's - Securing Sexuality ConferenceStefani's - Counseling ServicesStefani's Book - The Leather CouchStefani's Book - Sprinkles on TopStefani's Book - Kink Affirming PracticeDownload the Duluth Model Wheel of Power and ControlSlow Tantric Sex Online Masterclass - Join us August 19th at 4pm Pacific / 7pm Eastern for a live masterclass on zoom. Register for $33 HERE (free limited replay window available) Sexual Reflexology Online Masterclass - Join us September 2nd at 4pm Pacific / 7pm Eastern for a live masterclass on zoom. Register for $33 HERE (free limited replay window available) Erotic Polarity Online Masterclass Register for $55 HERE Support the showPlease help support the production costs of the show! Donate now: https://www.buzzsprout.com/2032242/supporters/newFREEBIE- Introduction to Tantric Kissing Video and WorkbookSxR WebsiteDr. Willow's WebsiteLeah's Website