Stop Abandoning Yourself to Be Chosen

Send us Fan MailHave you ever known something wasn’t right... but talked yourself out of what you knew because you wanted the relationship, opportunity, friendship, or connection to work?That’s self-abandonment.And it doesn’t always look dramatic. Sometimes it looks like being “understanding.” Staying quiet. Ignoring your intuition. Accepting inconsistency. Shrinking your needs. Or convincing yourself you’re asking for too much when, deep down, you know something isn’t working.In this episode of Hold My Purse, Rho gets personal about the moments she almost ignored what her own body, intuition, and experience were telling her... and what finally changed when she stopped asking, “Will they choose me?” and started asking, “Am I choosing myself?”We’re talking about:The subtle ways we abandon ourselves to keep a connectionWhy being chosen and being aligned are not the same thingHow wanting someone’s approval can make us negotiate our own needsWhat your body and intuition may be trying to tell youWhy someone else’s capacity is not a measurement of your worthThe five-question Return to Self Check-In to help you get clear when you’re spiraling, shrinking, chasing, or over-explainingTake This Conversation With YouI created a free Return to Self Checklist to help you put this episode into practice.Use it anytime you find yourself overthinking, chasing clarity, minimizing what you need, ignoring what you know, or becoming a version of yourself just to keep someone else comfortable.Download the free Return to Self Checklist Because sometimes coming back to yourself starts with asking one honest question at a time.Journal Prompt:Where in my life am I shrinking, silencing, performing, or overextending because I want to be chosen, accepted, included, loved, or approved of?And what would change if I stopped making someone else’s capacity the measurement of my worth?Because the goal isn’t to become hard, closed off, or “unbothered” by everything.The goal is to be able to love without leaving yourself.Listen now, download your Return to Self Checklist, and send this episode to the friend who may need this reminder too.Subscribe to Hold My Purse, turn on your notifications, and join Purse Check to keep the conversation going beyond the mic.You do not have to abandon yourself to be loved. You do not have to shrink to be chosen.Email address: [email protected]: https://www.hold-my-purse.com/Rho I YouTubeRho I InstagramRho I TikTokRho I Facebook GroupAria I Instagram