EPISODE · Sep 3, 2026 · 19 MIN
Stop Asking “What Should I Do?” Ask This Instead
from The Obedient Rebel · host Allyson Chavez
Stuck trying to figure out what you should do next? Maybe you're asking the wrong question. Instead of asking “What should I do?”, try asking: “Who do I want to be here?” In this episode, we're talking about identity-based decision making, what pressure reveals about the patterns you've practiced, and how to become the person capable of living the life you're working so hard to create. Because you don't become courageous after the success. You practice courage now. You don't become peaceful when everything works out. You practice peace while things are uncertain. Identity comes before evidence. And if you're ready to make clearer decisions, trust yourself more, experience more peace around money and success, and stop allowing fear to run the show, come join us inside The Obedient Rebel Room. Your first month is just $1: https://theobedientrebel.com/room 📘 Get a copy of The Prosperity Approach: https://allysonchavez.com/TheProsperityApproach __ Key Takeaways 00:00 – Stop Asking “What Should I Do?” 00:50 – Identity-Based Decisions 01:09 – Choose Who You Want to Be 02:01 – When You Make a Mistake 03:27 – Own It and Move Forward 06:00 – Circumstances Reveal You 07:20 – Awareness Without Judgment 07:52 – What Pressure Reveals 09:02 – Become Who Can Hold It 10:14 – Growth Before Results 10:47 – Growing Through Hard Seasons 11:59 – Practice the Identity Today 12:45 – Identity Before Evidence 13:32 – The Decision-Making Exercise 15:44 – When It Becomes Automatic 17:05 – Who Do You Want to Be? 17:27 – Choose the Next Step 17:48 – The Obedient Rebel Room __ Additional Resources Learn more about Allyson’s work: Website: https://allysonchavez.com/ Reach out to Allyson on social media: 🔹 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/allysonchavez_ 🔹 Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/allyson.a.chavez 🔹 LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/allysonchavez15 🎧 Follow the podcast so you never miss an episode: https://theobedientrebel.com/listen ✨ If you’re enjoying the show, please leave a rating and review — it truly helps more people discover the podcast. #IdentityBasedDecisions #PersonalGrowth #MindsetShift #SelfLeadership #DecisionMaking #FaithAndGrowth #BecomeWhoYouWantToBe #TheObedientRebel #AllysonChavez
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Stuck trying to figure out what you should do next? Maybe you're asking the wrong question. Instead of asking “What should I do?”, try asking: “Who do I want to be here?” In this episode, we're talking about identity-based decision making, what pressure reveals about the patterns you've practiced, and how to become the person capable of living the life you're working so hard to create. Because you don't become courageous after the success. You practice courage now. You don't become peaceful when everything works out. You practice peace while things are uncertain. Identity comes before evidence. And if you're ready to make clearer decisions, trust yourself more, experience more peace around money and success, and stop allowing fear to run the show, come join us inside The Obedient Rebel Room.
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