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EPISODE · Jul 1, 2025 · 9 MIN

Stop feeling guilty about changing your mind

from The Elle Diaries · host Elle Beecher Hogan

Do you ever say yes to plans in the moment, only to feel dread creeping in later? Oh my gosh, I used to do this ALL the time - getting swept up in someone's excitement, committing on the spot, then beating myself up when I didn't want to follow through.In this episode, I'm sharing the game-changing strategy that completely transformed how I make plans (and honestly, it's created so much more ease in my life).Here's what we're diving into:Why I had to stop trusting my "right now" feelings when making plansThe simple buffer technique that prevents those awkward cancellation conversationsHow learning about my Emotional Authority changed everything about my decision-making (i.e. Human Design, if you want a reading I'm offering them for $250; DM me!)The beautiful contrast between Cam's sacral authority and my emotional waveExactly what I say when someone invites me to something (it's so simple!)The real talk: You are fully within your right to follow your feelings and change your mind. But there's a way to honor both your truth AND your relationships without all the guilt and shame.If you've ever felt like the "flaky friend" or struggled with people-pleasing, this one's for you. I'm giving you full permission to take your time with decisions - because when you honor how you're designed, everything gets easier.Let me know if this resonates! Send me a DM - I love hearing from you.Find this episode ⁠⁠⁠⁠on ⁠all podcast platforms⁠.Connect with me:✨ One-on-one ⁠⁠Human Design reading⁠⁠ with me ($250)✨ All of my ⁠⁠⁠social media⁠⁠⁠✨ ⁠⁠⁠Donate⁠⁠⁠ to fuel my work⁠⁠⁠⁠ or buy me a spring waterCheck out our cute communities:✨ Elle’s dating ⁠community for women ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠✨ Cam's ⁠community for men⁠ with big visions who want to keep momentum✨ Our free daily ⁠gratitude community⁠ to embrace “feel good” emotions ⁠⁠⁠⁠✨ ⁠Weekly walks ⁠for meaningful conversations (and newsletter sign up) ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠My relationship podcast, Listen Before Love:✨ Spotify, Apple, & all platforms⁠ HERE⁠✨ ⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠The Elle Diaries is a safe space for wacky stories, lightbulb moments, and delightful chaos... like cute little personal pods. Share with a friend if you love it! 🥰⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YOU ARE LOVED AND YOU ARE ENOUGH! ❤️

Do you ever say yes to plans in the moment, only to feel dread creeping in later? Oh my gosh, I used to do this ALL the time - getting swept up in someone's excitement, committing on the spot, then beating myself up when I didn't want to follow through.In this episode, I'm sharing the game-changing strategy that completely transformed how I make plans (and honestly, it's created so much more ease in my life).Here's what we're diving into:Why I had to stop trusting my "right now" feelings when making plansThe simple buffer technique that prevents those awkward cancellation conversationsHow learning about my Emotional Authority changed everything about my decision-making (i.e. Human Design, if you want a reading I'm offering them for $250; DM me!)The beautiful contrast between Cam's sacral authority and my emotional waveExactly what I say when someone invites me to something (it's so simple!)The real talk: You are fully within your right to follow your feelings and change your mind. But there's a way to honor both your truth AND your relationships without all the guilt and shame.If you've ever felt like the "flaky friend" or struggled with people-pleasing, this one's for you. I'm giving you full permission to take your time with decisions - because when you honor how you're designed, everything gets easier.Let me know if this resonates! Send me a DM - I love hearing from you.Find this episode ⁠⁠⁠⁠on ⁠all podcast platforms⁠.Connect with me:✨ One-on-one ⁠⁠Human Design reading⁠⁠ with me ($250)✨ All of my ⁠⁠⁠social media⁠⁠⁠✨ ⁠⁠⁠Donate⁠⁠⁠ to fuel my work⁠⁠⁠⁠ or buy me a spring waterCheck out our cute communities:✨ Elle’s dating ⁠community for women ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠✨ Cam's ⁠community for men⁠ with big visions who want to keep momentum✨ Our free daily ⁠gratitude community⁠ to embrace “feel good” emotions ⁠⁠⁠⁠✨ ⁠Weekly walks ⁠for meaningful conversations (and newsletter sign up) ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠My relationship podcast, Listen Before Love:✨ Spotify, Apple, & all platforms⁠ HERE⁠✨ ⁠Youtube⁠⁠⁠ ⁠⁠⁠The Elle Diaries is a safe space for wacky stories, lightbulb moments, and delightful chaos... like cute little personal pods. Share with a friend if you love it! 🥰⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠YOU ARE LOVED AND YOU ARE ENOUGH! ❤️

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