Stop Negative Self-Talk and Start Believing in Yourself with Brayden Black

Your inner voice can either build you or quietly destroy you. In this powerful conversation, motivational coach Brayden Black shares how self-leadership, awareness, and intentional thinking can completely change the course of your life. In this episode, Bobby sits down with Brayden Black, a motivational speaker and vision & strategy coach, to unpack one of the most important (and overlooked) leadership skills: how you talk to yourself. Brayden shares his personal journey from insecurity, self-doubt, and negative self-talk to confidence, clarity, and purpose. Together, we explore why most people don’t believe in themselves, how past experiences quietly shape our identity, and why learning to control your thoughts is foundational to self-leadership. This conversation dives deep into: • Why negative self-talk feels so convincing • How self-esteem is rebuilt (not discovered overnight) • Why writing things down changes how your brain works • How to stop expecting the worst and start expecting the best • The difference between knowing better and believing better • Why hope is the foundation of personal growth and leadership If you’ve ever felt stuck, unsure of yourself, or trapped by your own thoughts. This episode is for you. Chapters 00:00 – Why your inner voice matters more than you think 02:10 – Brayden’s story: insecurity, self-esteem, and identity 06:45 – How coaching changed how Brayden saw himself 11:30 – Writing things down and rewiring belief 17:40 – Why we forget who we are 23:15 – Expecting the worst vs expecting the best 28:50 – How negative self-talk actually works 34:10 – Recognize → question → change your thoughts 40:25 – Why saying thoughts out loud is powerful 45:30 – Hope explained: “Has One Person Ever…” 49:20 – Final encouragement for anyone feeling stuck Connect with Brayden Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/_brayden.black?igsh=OTZ5ZXAyMzY3OWUw LinkedIn: linkedin.com/in/brayden-black-bb913534b YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@thenarrativeeffect Connect With Bobby YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCbAUhnH37eodhRKlVu7B--g Instagram: @theselfleadershiplab LinkedIn: ⁠https://linkedin.com/in/dr-bobby-shelton-dsl-pmp-acc-124502b⁠ Podcast: The Self-Leadership Lab (Available on Apple, YouTube, or Spotify) Website: ⁠www.battlecatcoaching.com⁠ Book: ⁠https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0FT68RCB1⁠ Substack: https://bobbyshelton.substack.com/ If this conversation helped you rethink your inner voice, hit Subscribe and turn on notifications. New episodes every week to help you lead yourself better