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Sep 1, 2026 50 min

Grace-Based vs. Performance-Based Marriage with Brad Rhoads

from Marriage After God Hosted by Aaron & Jennifer Smith

What is a grace-based marriage, and how do you stop keeping score with your spouse? Brad Rhoads, pastor, founder of the Grace Marriage ministry, and author of The Grace Marriage (Moody Publishers), spent the first year of his marriage convinced his wife's unhappiness was her problem, until two men in his church told him he was succeeding at the things that mattered least and failing at the things that mattered most. In this conversation, Aaron and Brad discuss the difference between a performance-based marriage, where love is given and withdrawn based on behavior, and a grace-based marriage built on the gospel. They cover why the church has largely abandoned the space between premarital counseling and marital crisis, how resting in God's grace changes the way you love your spouse, and what it looks like when a couple's marriage is so genuinely fun that younger couples come asking for counsel.

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