Stop Settling: What A Great Marriage Actually Looks Like

Episode 53: Hey y’all 💛 I am beyond excited to share this juicy episode with you because we are going all in on a topic I feel SO passionate about—what actually makes a marriage GREAT. Not “fine,” not “meh,” not “just surviving”—but truly great. ✨In this episode, I take you behind the scenes of my own love story 💕, share how my definition of a great marriage has radically changed, and break down what I believe is actually required for a deeply connected, life-giving relationship.We're diving into: 💡 Why emotional adulthood is non-negotiable 🛡️ What it means to be a “secure base” for each other 🧠 How trauma, codependency, and attachment styles affect our marriages 📉 Common myths we’ve all been fed (like “staying no matter what” equals success—nope!) 🔥 The difference between surviving a marriage vs. thriving in onePLUS—I spill the tea on the real work my partner Joe and I have done to build the kind of connection I used to dream about 🌈.This episode is a rallying cry to stop settling, start being radically honest with yourself, and dream bigger when it comes to love. You deserve a relationship that helps you soar—not one that holds you back.💻 Don’t forget to check the show notes for links to my newly refreshed website (hello, branding glow-up!), past episodes that connect with this one, and where to watch the pod on YouTube (yes, VIDEO is here! 🎥).🧠💗🔥 This one’s a game changer. Let it land. Come back to it. And most of all—know that you’re worthy of a love that feels like home.Show Notes:Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents: How to Heal from Distant, Rejecting, or Self-Involved Parents - Lindsay C. GibsonAttached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find--and Keep--Love - Amir LevineYouTube Episodes That Relate: Episode 4: The 50-Year Marriage Myth 💍 | Time Doesn’t Equal SuccessEpisode 7: Guilt Is Keeping You Stuck—Here’s How to Break FreeEpisode 12: Understanding Your Attachment Style Can Change EverythingEpisode 16: True Love or Trauma Bond? How to Tell the Difference 💛To book a 90-Minute Session text 90MIN to 33777Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the communityFor the free tarot guide using ChatGPT text EMAILME to 33777Support the showYouTube Channel The Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching Intensive Stay or Go Community Instagram Facebook This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit stayorgo.substack.com/subscribeSupport the showThe Deep Dive - 3 Month One-on-One Coaching IntensiveText 90MIN to 33777 to book a 90-Minute Session with me. ✨Text STAYORGOCOMMUNITY to 33777 to join the community. ⚡️Text EMAILME to 33777 for the free tarot guide using ChatGPT. 💫Stay or Go CommunityInstagramFacebook YouTube ChannelSubscribe to Stay or Go on Substack