Stop the fight. Return to each other

Today’s guest is Gaylen Wilson, a heart transplant survivor, 20-years-sober former alcoholic, relationship author, erectile dysfunction advocate, Certified Thriving Relationship Coach, and founder of The Monument Method Institute with his wife Heather. Gaylen’s life has not been one comeback. It has been a series of forced reinventions. After farm failure, a collapsed stockbroker career, alcoholism, sobriety, career disruption after 9/11, rebuilding as a computer repairman, and later becoming a successful field-service technician, Gaylen faced the largest crisis of his life. In 2014, a virus attacked his heart and left him in end-stage heart failure. For the next three and a half years, he and Heather lived through hospital rooms, fear, financial pressure, uncertainty, lost intimacy, disability, and the reality that without a transplant, he was going to die. On June 19, 2018, Gaylen sat Heather down and told her he likely had only a few months left. About thirty minutes later, the transplant center called. The next morning, he received a new heart. That experience left him with one driving question: What do you do with years you were never guaranteed? For more than five years, Gaylen helped inside two of the largest erectile dysfunction support communities on Facebook, serving roughly 60,000 men and partners. Through thousands of conversations, he saw that ED is often far more than a bedroom problem. It can become a mental-health crisis involving shame, anxiety, depression, avoidance, masculinity collapse, and relationship damage. Those experiences helped shape The Monument Method, a relationship system focused on emotional safety, conflict repair, intimacy restoration, personal responsibility, and protecting the bond under pressure. Gaylen and Heather are also building MVP — Monument Validated Person — a relationship-readiness dating platform designed for people who want to prepare for healthier relationships before they start dating. His mission is simple: to help people build relationships strong enough that neither person has to survive life alone anymore. http://www.monumentmethodinstitute.com/