Stop Trying To Find Your Calling

I often find myself questioning my identity beyond my roles as a producer, a mom, and a wife. Who am I when I’m not wearing those hats? In Part 3 of the Identity series, this episode dives into the heart of that question, exploring how so many of us chase our callings as if they’re just jobs or titles. We think if we label ourselves correctly—like ‘I’m a real estate agent’ or ‘I’m a mom’—we’ll somehow find the clarity we seek. But what if we’re missing something crucial? I’m here to share that before we can fully embrace what we’re called to do, we have to understand who we are. It’s easy to get lost in the hustle and forget that our identity as daughters of God is foundational. We can’t skip over the first questions of identity and purpose without turning our lives into a series of tests we’re trying to ace. In this episode, I’m laying out the framework for you to find that clarity. You’ll discover how to shift from struggling in a chair two mindset—where we feel like we’re always working to earn our place—to standing firm in the truth of who we are. I’ll break down: The four rooms of influence you already have where you’re living out your calling, even if you don’t realize it The importance of understanding what you already possess and how that shapes your destiny How to navigate the uncomfortable waiting periods when we feel like God is withholding something from us A simple yet profound question to ask yourself when restlessness creeps in, helping you discern what you truly need This conversation is for the busy, ambitious women who juggle motherhood, work, and faith while feeling the weight of expectations. If you’ve ever felt lost or like you’re just going through the motions, this episode is a wake-up call to realign with your true calling and identity. Mentioned in this Episode: Resource: Called to Reign: Living and Loving from a Place of Rest by Leif Hetland: https://amzn.to/3Sv6BHf Companion Guide: https://marinatolentino.myflodesk.com/alreadycalled My book is coming. The Hidden Deception: Raising Kids Who Don't Drift From Jesus — because our kids are watching what makes Mom feel valuable. Get on the early reader list: https://marinatolentino.myflodesk.com/thehiddendeceptionbook 🌺 CONNECT WITH MARINA Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/marinattolentino_ TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@marinattolentino YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@marinatolentino/ Website: https://www.marinatolentino.com/ Email Newsletter: https://marinatolentino.myflodesk.com/worklikeamother 🏡 Moving to Oʻahu or thinking about buying or selling a home? Connect with Marina and explore her Oʻahu real estate resources here: https://bio.site/marinatolentino 🎙️ WORK LIKE A MOTHER Work Like A Mother is a podcast for ambitious women navigating motherhood, faith, entrepreneurship, career, marriage, parenting, and purpose. Hosted by Marina Tolentino, the show explores what it looks like to pursue your calling, raise a family, build meaningful work, and follow Jesus in the middle of real life. Subscribe or follow so you don't miss the next episode. Music licensed through Soundstripe. Code: VHTGCAMPCYWJVJAX