Stopping the cycle of retraumatisation for others: listener question

Seeing the cycle of Face Fear -> Get Painfully Knocked Down -> Repeat lead to learning and growth and improvement for some. And (apparent) maladaptive response and (possible) traumatic experience for another. And wondering how much is possible to alter/influence for such young kids. And of course to remember to start with me and all the pointers Claire has given to people in similar situations.  But seriously, can we help kids/others have less cycle of retraumatization? I’m recalling that Claire would probably say to “Show them the way.” But unfortunately, I feel like I’m still in preschool with all of this myself :)