Summer Replay - How to Find Love After 40: Heal Your Past, Trust Yourself & Attract Healthy Relationships l EP 50

Can you really find healthy, fulfilling love after divorce, heartbreak, or years of unhealthy relationships?In this heartfelt episode of The Midlife Awakening, I sit down with dating coach Lily Bewley to explore why lasting love starts with healing yourself first.After years of attracting emotionally unavailable partners and struggling with people-pleasing, self-abandonment, and low self-worth, Lily transformed her own life through deep inner healing. Today, she helps women break unhealthy relationship patterns, rebuild self-trust, and create soul-aligned partnerships that feel safe, secure, and fulfilling.Together, we explore why so many women in midlife struggle with dating, how childhood experiences shape our relationships, and why learning to trust yourself is the foundation for attracting the love you truly deserve.In this episode we discuss: Why healing yourself is the first step to finding lasting love  The connection between childhood trauma and adult relationships  Breaking free from people-pleasing and self-abandonment  Why self-sabotage is actually self-protection  Building genuine self-love through boundaries and self-trust  Healing after divorce, heartbreak or toxic relationships  How attachment styles influence dating patterns  The importance of nervous system healing in relationships  Understanding Lily's Feminine Dating Archetypes  How to recognise unhealthy dating patterns before they repeat  Why vulnerability is a strength—not a weakness  Becoming the "Magnetic Woman" and attracting healthy love The Four Feminine Dating ArchetypesLily introduces her unique Feminine Dating Archetypes, designed to help women identify their relationship patterns and understand the healing needed to create healthier partnerships:The Chill Woman – Struggles with boundaries and seeks connection through people-pleasing. The Fortress Woman – Protects herself behind emotional walls after heartbreak and finds trusting others difficult. The Goddess Woman – Has done significant personal development but still feels stuck attracting the wrong relationships. The Magnetic Woman – Lives authentically, trusts herself, sets healthy boundaries, and naturally attracts aligned relationships. Key Takeaways❤️ Lasting love begins with self-trust.❤️ Boundaries are one of the greatest acts of self-love.❤️ Healing isn't about fixing yourself—it's about remembering who you truly are.❤️ Self-sabotage is often your nervous system trying to protect you.❤️ You don't attract healthy love by becoming someone else—you attract it by becoming more authentically yourself.Resources Mentioned Lily's Feminine Dating Archetype Quiz Attachment Styles  Nervous System Healing  Inner Child Healing  Self-Trust & Boundary Work Connect with Lily Bewley🌐 Dating Archetype Quiz: datingarchetype.com📱 Instagram: @lilybewleySend us Fan MailSupport the showRate the Show : RateThisPodcast.com/midlifeFacebook Community : https://www.facebook.com/groups/1717887919057641/Instagram : https://www.instagram.com/the.midlife.awakening/Substack : https://themidlifeawakening.substack.com/The Awakened Community - https://themidlifeawakening.substack.com/subscribeTo submit your story to be featured on...