Sunday 02:09:14

We are all leaving a legacy. We will leave a legacy at work, at school, in our communities. But the biggest impact, the greatest legacy you leave will be in your own family. Last week: You have to work together to build a legacy Ephesians 5:24-33 A man's live for his wife is to be a reflection of Jesus' love for his church. Too often we read verse 25 and immediately jump on the sacrificial part and come up with a list of things we can do for our wives. “What is the motivation?” Are you trying to butter her up or build her up? Buttering her up is manipulation. It's ultimately not sacrificial, nor selfless. It's about you. Building her up is a selfless demonstration of love. Christ loves her; her image was stamped on his heart her name graven on his hands; he desired to have her for his companion, longing for a return of her affection, for the establishment of sympathy between her and him. he gave himself for her showing that her welfare was dearer to him than his own - the true test of deep, real love. The goal is not just to treat her well so that she'll treat you well. The goal is to help her be all that God has for her. The way that you speak to her. The unconditional love you show her. The way you provide, protect, and lovingly lead her creates an environment for her to blossom to be all that God created her to be. The husband's role in the home is to provide loving leadership. Leadership is not a right to command and control as one might in a military setting. Author and pastor of Bethlehem Bible Church in Minneapolis, Minn., John Piper: "Headship is God's calling on a husband for Christ-like - servant leadership, - protection and - provision." In God's hierarchy, leaders serve. Matthew 23:11 Jesus says, "The greatest among you will be your servant." Christ demonstrated servant leadership. The wife gets to submit and the husband gets to die.