Support vs Over-Functioning (and the Question That Keeps You Honest)

How do you tell the difference between being supportive… and over-functioning for someone?In this short episode of The Tessa Tubbs Podcast, Tessa offers a simple distinction that can change the way you lead, parent, partner, and collaborate:Support empowers. Over-functioning replaces. Tessa breaks down what over-functioning actually is: substituting your capacity for someone else’s, often because watching them struggle makes you uncomfortable, you want things to move faster, or you’ve learned to feel useful by stepping in. She also names the deeper truth: over-functioning is frequently more about the helper than the person being helped. It can relieve your discomfort, satisfy your need to feel needed or in control, and unintentionally communicate to the other person that you don’t believe they can handle it on their own. To stay honest, Tessa shares the question she uses as a real-time check:“Whose comfort am I serving right now?” If you’ve been exhausted from carrying too much, rescuing too quickly, or feeling responsible for outcomes that aren’t yours, this episode will help you build healthier support, clearer boundaries, and stronger self-leadership.Learn More at TessaTubbs.com