Swimming Towards Empowerment and Transformation with Therapist and Coach Ludovica Colella.

Send us Fan MailC4 Leaders – the ONLY nonprofit to utilize the pizza making process to create space for our companions to be seen, heard, and loved.   We work with businesses, sports teams, hospitals, churches…anyone looking to RISE TOGETHER.  We also write children’s books and use the most amazing handmade, hand-tossed, sourdough pizza to bring out the best in each other.   Please check out c4leaders.org to support our important work. Season 6 Episode #25 Ludovica Colella is coming from Naples, Italy (inform, inspire, & transform)You can find Ludovica via her website lu-cole.com.   Change, Grow, Become!Ludovica is a CBT-trained psychotherapist and confidence coach specializing in people-pleasing, fawning, and self-abandonment. She works with high-functioning women who are exhausted from over-giving and living for everyone else’s approval — and helps them build boundaries that actually hold. Featured in Forbes, Newsweek, Business Insider, and VeryWellMind, Ludovica brings both clinical expertise and lived experience to every conversation. She’s the founder of LuCole LTD and has worked with clients globally. Her core question: why do intelligent, self-aware people keep repeating the same patterns even when they know exactly what they should do?  That question and many more will be answered on today’s podcast.  Ludovica, thanks for sharing your gifts and talents with people all over the world, thanks for taking your pain and turning it into your purpose and thanks for being our guest on Life’s Essential Ingredients…welcome to the show.TOTD – “Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened, vision cleared, ambition inspired, and success achieved.”― Helen KellerBuild a habit - to create intention - to live your purpose!In this episode:Have to talk pizza first…What was life like growing up?Groomed to Care as a child…Being Empathic but with boundaries…Understanding Patterns, Where they came from, what they are protecting you from, and how to start doing things different in moments that matter…Looking at the beliefs underneath the behavior…the ones that feel so true you never questioned them (my needs are too much, I’m only lovable when I am useful, if I disagree they’ll leave…People Pleasers – good at what you do but running on empty, say yes but then are resentful and guilty about being resentful, hard to say NO, know what to do but doing is difficult, put in the work but something still isn’t shifting your behaviorEmotional HypervigilanceOverthinking Text Messages in RelationshipsFawning Trauma Response – what is it – giving excessive insincere praise….Rewriting Your Story…The power of healthy anger..Why People Pleasers Attracting Emotionally Unavailable PartnersConditioning and how can we rewrite that story…Intuition and Belief…Self Awareness…Learning to say NO and set up BoundariesCongrats on your journal you wrote…THE FEEL GOOD JOURNAL…Healing…