SWINGING WHILE BLACK

When you think of swinging, what's the first image that comes to your mind? Some key party in the 1970s? Tom Cruise and Nicole Kidman in masks? A suburban couple revealing their lifestyle on The Oprah Show? I'm going to assume all of those images in your mind have one thing in common. Everybody is white. If you've been paying attention you know it's already dangerous to be driving while Black. Outside a store while Black. Voting while Black. Riding a train while Black. Sitting in your car while Black. Wearing a hoodie while Black. Walking in your neighborhood with a friend while Black. Minding your own damn business inside your own damn apartment while Black. But when it comes being a swinger…do Black people really do that? Yes they do. And for some…it can be, well, interesting. On this episode, I talk to one half of a "rarity" in the swinging community: A Black couple. Pursuing the lifestyle of their choice, both he and his wife have experienced all sorts of interesting comments, rejections and flat out fetishization. My guest discusses what it's like to be at a sex party with Trump supporters, the crazy expectations or blatant racism they encounter on swinger dating sites and also the historic implications of being a Black man watching your wife have sex with a White man. Everything you think you knew about the lifestyle is about to change. If you'd like to contact my guest Mink and his wife Andy, check out the swinging lifestyle site Kasidie.com and search for MinkandAndy. At the very least, you know it's going to be a funny night. Here's my Medium.com story about the night I dragged my husband to a swinger party for work. It did not go well. It's important to remember that the racial awareness that's happening right now in this country is not just some trend and we must keep working to educate ourselves and help put an end to systemic racism. White people need to better understand our part in this country's deeply rooted racist past and the millions of ways we've benefited from it without even realizing. There's a lot more work that needs to be done. Please don't ask or expect Black people to educate you. You have to listen, learn and do the work yourself. Below is a brief list of book to read that will help you better understand centuries of systemic oppression much better. Please do your part to support Black artists, Black-owned business, and try to use your platform to amplify Black voices whenever you can. How to Be an Antiracist/Ibram X. Kendi/2019 White Fragility/Robin J. Diangelo/June 26, 2018 Why Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria? And Other Conversations About Race/Beverley Daniel Tatum/2017 White Rage/Carol Anderson/2017 Why I'm No Longer Talking to White People About Race/Renni Eddo-Lodge/2017 Between the World and Me/Ta-Nehisi Coates/2015 The New Jim Crow: Mass Incarceration in the Age of Colorblindness/Michelle Alexander/2010 Eloquent Rage: A Black Feminist Discovers Her Superpower/Brittney Cooper/2018 I Know Why the Caged Bird Sings/Maya Angelou/1969 Just Mercy/Bryan Stevenson/2014 Me and White Supremacy/Layla F. Saad/2020 Raising our Hands/Jenna Arnold/2020 Redefining Realness: My Path to Womanhood, Identity, Love, and So Much More/Janet Mock/2014 The Bluest Eye/Toni Morrison/1970 The Fire Next Time/James Baldwin/1962 This Bridge Called My Back: Writings by Radical Women of Color/Edited by Cherríe Moraga and Gloria E. Anzaldúa/1984 Women, Race, and Class/Angela Davis/1981 Thank you for listening. See you next time! Please Subscribe and Leave Us a 5-Star Review I'll be your best friend!