Taking Back Her Brain Insecure Attachment: What We think is happening vs What is really happening

What we think is happening versus what is actually happening. What we think we should do and what we actually need to do.We think we this is what is happening:Experience a circumstanceAttachment System TriggeredTake ActionWhat is actually happening:Experience a circumstanceWe have a thoughta. I'm not good enough/ they don't love me/ they are going to leave meAttachment System TriggeredWe have an uncomfortable emotionThen we take action to FEEL BETTERBUT WHAT WE NEED TO DO Experience a circumstanceWe have a thoughta. I'm not good enough/ they don't love me/ they are going to leave meAttachment System TriggeredWe have an uncomfortable emotionSTOP . PAUSE . Show yourself compassionOf course this is what is happening, our brain is giving us a lot of negative thoughts creating lots of negative emotions,Now pause... feel your emotion... label it ... label how does it feel, what vibrations do you feel in your body... NOW feel it, allow yourself to just sit with the fear/ rejection/ overwhelmThese are just negative emotions, nothing has really gone wrong our brain is just feeding us a lot of negative thoughts creating a lot of uncomfortable emotions.