Taking Control of Your Worth: How to Stop Letting Others Define You with Ngozi Cadmus

Quote"I recognise my worth, and I refuse to let others dictate my value. I have learned that I must defend myself and articulate when something is not right. As a black woman, I know that sometimes there may not be support or defense from others, so I must build my internal resources. I have learned to find spaces where I can articulate my voice, gain support, and bring that confidence into other environments. It's about recognising that my worth is not determined by my circumstances, but by the choices I make and the actions I take to create change within myself and in the world around me." - Ngozi CadmusWho is Ngozi Cadmus?Introducing Ngozi, a powerhouse in the field of Mental Health & Leadership. As a renowned Psychotherapist, Business Coach, and CEO & Founder of Frontline Coaching and Frontline Therapist, Ngozi is making waves in tackling the stigma of mental health in the black community, improving access to therapy, and empowering black women in leadership.Her companies provide cutting-edge, data-driven EDI and well-being solutions that shape business strategies, policies, and decision-making practices.Ngozi's dedication to inclusivity is further evident in her affordable and accessible culturally sensitive online counselling services for Black and Asian Minority Ethnic Individuals and individuals from disadvantaged backgrounds. But Ngozi's impact doesn't stop there. She is also a trailblazer in coaching women of faith to become leaders in their respective industries, helping them build and scale up their coaching and wellness businesses.Her groundbreaking doctoral research on the success factors of Black women leaders in British companies, using a critical realist and intersectional lens, is pushing the boundaries of knowledge. With testimonials lauding her impactful workshops, strong well-being culture, and unwavering support for black women in tech, Ngozi is a force to be reckoned with.Get ready to be inspired by her unparalleled expertise and unwavering commitment to diversity, equity, and inclusion.Ngozi's Journey to Self-discoveryNgozi's journey of self-discovery has been nothing short of inspiring. She has come to realize her worth and has shed the need for validation from others. No longer caring about what others think of her, she has learned to stand up for herself and articulate her thoughts with unwavering confidence when faced with disrespect.Through her experiences, Ngozi has also come to acknowledge the lack of support for black women in dealing with racial bullying and the challenges of communicating in different environments. She understands the struggle to find one's voice, whether it be in a work situation or in other areas of life. But she doesn't stop there.Ngozi is a firm believer in finding spaces where one can express their voice and gain support, and then using the skills and resources from those spaces to articulate oneself in other environments. She recognizes the importance of agency and the need for both internal and external work in finding and using one's voice.Ngozi's definition of leadership goes beyond the traditional notions of it. She sees leadership in three dimensions: self-leadership, organisational leadership, and people leadership. For her, self-leadership involves intrinsic qualities and emotional intelligence, while organisational leadership is about strategic direction and problem-solving skills. People leadership, on the other hand, is all about collaboration and fostering an inclusive environment for employees to thrive.But what truly sets Ngozi apart is her unwavering commitment to serving others. She believes that a true leader is a servant, and she takes pride in making a difference in underserved communities, particularly in the field of mental health for black, Asian, and minority ethnic individuals.As our conversation delves deeper, Ngozi emphasises the importance of being authentic and real, of overcoming fears and insecurities, and of inspiring others to do the same. Her unwavering passion and determination to make a positive impact in the world is truly awe-inspiring, and her journey is a testament to the power of recognising one's worth and finding one's voice.Key Leadership learning moments (timestamps)00;03;17;09 - Ngozi's Childhood00;09;13;19 - Ngozi's Struggles as a Student00;14;43;19 - Attending College in South London00;17;49;21 - Something She Can't Tell Her Parents!00;21;13;04 - The Protector of the Weak00;23;53;06 - Her Underlying Resilience00;26;37;17 - Finding Her Life's Purpose00;28;27;11 - Dealing ADHD00;31;44;10 - Dealing with Bullies - Story #100;33;07;27 - Dealing with Bullies - Story #200;37;40;02 - Defending Herself is the Priority00;41;51;17 - Practical Tips to Find One's Voice00;46;23;18 - Evidence Based Affirmations is the KEY00;47;30;22 - Understanding Thyself00;50;20;22 - How Ngozi Defines Leadership00;54;03;12 - Her Life's Proudest MomentsNgozis links:LinkedInWebsitePodcastInstagramFollow the podcastIf youve just stumbled across this podcast episode by chance, please click here to follow it so you never miss a future episode.If you want to learn more about this podcast, and myself, Sope Agbelusi, you can do so using any of the links below.Connect with Me Website Instagram LinkedIn Twitter YouTube Email: [email protected] I am always keen to hear your thoughts and connect with the community of listeners. 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