Taking Your Marriage From Good to Great | Dr. Terri Orbuch | #36

Today Dr. Dave and Dr. Liz sit down with Dr. Terri Orbuch who is also known as the love doctor and discuss taking your marriage from good to great. From communication to frustration to positivity and managing money, Terri breaks things down into practical principles that anyone can apply.Timestamps:0:00 – Introduction: Who is Terri Orbuch?2:49 – Terri’s research4:32 – 46% of married couples divorce5:15 – The positive and optimistic statistic of 71% of divorced couples7:52 – Affirmations in marriage9:54 – The biggest reason relationships don’t work is frustration11:05 – Conflict, disagreements and differences are inevitable12:34 – We need to make sure we have realistic expectations14:38 – What is more important to husbands than wives?16:03 – We need to feel like we are part of a team18:44 – The 10-minute rule that partners need to practice21:43 – Excitement and passion declining is inevitable in all relationships23:15 – Do something new and novel with your partner25:26 – Three strategies to increase passion and excitement in your relationship26:37 – It is ok to take a break when you are irritated28:37 – Keep each issue or specific annoyance separate30:31 – The number one source of tension or conflict among couples is money33:00 – Happy couples focus on what’s going well, and focus on the positive35:21 – Resources37:22 – TakeawaysAbout Terri Orbuch:Dr. Terri Orbuch is a world-renowned relationship expert, author, speaker, therapist,distinguished professor at Oakland University, research scientist at University of Michigan’s Institute for Social Research and media personality whose practical science based advice had helped 1000’s of people find and create the loving relationships they deserve. She is also the director of a landmark study funded by the National Institutes of Health, where she has been following the same couples for over three decades.Insights:Terri: It is all about the little things, waking up and giving affirmations or actions of affirmations. Spending 10 minutes every single day taking about something other than those four topics.Dave: The little affirmations and things are powerful.Liz: Take one issue at a time, your brain gets overloaded and overwhelmed if you try to do too much at once.Invites:   -    Take on one issue at a time within your relationship   -    It’s all in the little things, spread daily affirmations to your partner   -    Practice the 10-minute rule with your partner each dayTerri Orbuch Links:https://drterrithelovedoctor.comhttps://www.facebook.com/DrTerriLoveDr/https://twitter.com/drterrilovedr?lang=enhttps://www.instagram.com/terriorbuch/?hl=en Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways:Strongermarriage.orgpodcast.strongermarriage.orgFacebook: StrongerMarriage.orgInstagram: @strongermarriagelifeTikTok: @strongermarriagelifeDr. Dave Schramm:https://drdaveschramm.comhttps://drdavespeaks.comFacebook:httHappy Hacks: 101 Science-Backed Ways to Boost Happiness, Reduce Stress, and Build a More Meaningful Life.Available now starting at 99¢ on Amazon and Dave's Book StoreWritten by Dr. Dave Schramm, this practical and uplifting new book offers simple, research-based strategies to help you build greater happiness, strengthen resilience, reduceThe opinions, findings, conclusions, and recommendations expressed in this podcast do not necessarily reflect the views of the Utah Marriage Commission.Visit our site for FREE relationship resources and regular giveaways: Strongermarriage.org  Podcast.stongermarriage.orgYouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@StrongerMarriageLifeTikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@strongermarriagelifeInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/strongermarriagelife/Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/strongermarriage/Facebook Marriage Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/770019130329579Dr. Dave Schramm: http://drdaveschramm.comhttp://drdavespeaks.com Dr. Liz Hale: http://www.drlizhale.com/