Taming the People Pleaser Within

Is people-pleasing running your life? In this episode, I walk you through a powerful coaching process I used with a client named Liz who was exhausted from trying to keep everyone happy. We unpack the roots of her people-pleasing instinct, personify it using the lens of Internal Family Systems, and tap into the Wise Self to reclaim autonomy and authentic decision-making. You’ll learn:Why people pleasing is ancient (and not your fault)How to create space between you and the urge to say "yes"What to say to your inner people pleaser—out loudAnd how to choose actions from clarity, not fearTimestamps00:30 – Welcome + intro to Liz’s people-pleasing exhaustion01:54 – Inside Out & Internal Family Systems (IFS) explained04:30 – Why people pleasing evolved (and why it’s not all bad)07:55 – Practicing what to say to your people-pleasing part09:20 – The trap of reactionary rebellion vs. true autonomy11:16 – Uncovering what really matters to you16:03 – Intrinsic vs extrinsic motivation and anxiety relief20:55 – Kindness Narrative: A professor committed to growing his studentsSubmit Your Kindness Narrative:Share a moment of kindness that moved you or changed you. Email your story (written or audio) to [email protected] or DM me on Instagram @CalmYourCaveman.For full shownotes, including resources mentioned, go to: https://www.calmyourcaveman.com/episodes/taming-the-people-pleaser-withinSend us Fan Mail🌐 https://www.calmyourcaveman.com