Tell Them What You Need

Morning Mantra: "Tell people what you need.  You'll either get it or realize they can't give it to you.  Both are gifts."

We often assume that people should know what we need.  If they KNOW me they should understand my needs well enough for me not to have to tell them.

The truth is, you should never assume others know what you want or need emotionally. It's hard, but necessary to communicate this openly and honestly.  It seems simple enough to just say it. But we all understand how difficult that can be and resort to the "if they loved me, I shouldn't HAVE to tell them".

This never works.  So we then feel resentful or change or needs.  But you must not try and un-need what you need.  People will either be right for you or they won't.  But trying to change your needs so they fit, will only diminish you.  

Learning to communicate BEFORE the resentment rears its ugly head or you change your needs is the single most important thing in a relationship.  If you can't do that then maybe it's not the right one.

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