Terraine - Reflection

Send us Fan MailIn this episode, I’m joined by Terraine.Terraine is a coach, podcaster, and someone who speaks openly about heartbreak, avoidance, family wounds, and the unconscious reasons we chase relationships in the first place.What I liked about this conversation is that it never stayed surface level for very long. We started talking about relationships, but underneath it was really about safety. The need to belong. The need to feel chosen. The need to finally build the family or connection we never really had growing up.Terraine speaks openly about growing up without stability and how that shaped the way he approached love. Not consciously. Not manipulatively. Just the way most of us do when we have unresolved shit sitting underneath us. We move toward what feels familiar, even when familiar hurts us.That was probably the biggest thing this episode sat inside.How many relationships are actually built from awareness?And how many are built from wounds trying to find relief?We talk about physical abuse, emotional safety, attachment styles, pornography, projection, narcissism, social media outrage, and the human tendency to constantly need someone else to blame for the discomfort we feel inside ourselves.Not in a preachy way. Not as theory. As real human behaviour.There is a part of this conversation where we move into accountability and that is where things got interesting for me. Because it is easy to point at parents, ex partners, childhood, trauma, society, or whatever else shaped us. And to be fair, a lot of those things genuinely do shape us. But eventually there comes a point where we have to ask:What is my responsibility now?Not what happened to me.What am I continuing to repeat?That is the shift this whole conversation keeps circling around.We also speak a lot about modern relationships and the way people unconsciously recreate the same dynamic over and over with different faces. Different partner. Same argument. Same wound. Same ending.And underneath all of it is usually the same thing. Fear.Fear of abandonment.Fear of rejection.Fear of not being enough.Fear of actually being seen.This is not a conversation about perfect relationships or becoming some spiritually enlightened couple who never argues. It is about recognising your own patterns quickly enough that you stop destroying connection every time discomfort shows up.The statement Terraine leaves for the next guest is this:Creating memories are the gateway to happiness.It’s You. Oh Fuck. It’s ME. In Session with a PsychotherapistHosted by Chad Taylor. Author of It’s You. Oh Fuck. It’s MENo tips.No fixing.Just real conversations.Terraine Brown can be found at:https://www.behindtheshades.caWEBSITEINSTAGRAM BOOK SALES: SHOPIFYGROUPS/COURSES: PATREON