TFS#250 - Alison Armstrong on why “Honorable Men Feel Shame” & What Women Don’t Know About Men

Alison Armstrong is a renowned relationship expert, author, and founder of PAX Programs, best known for her work on understanding men, women, and partnership. Since the early 1990s, she has studied human instincts, communication, and gender dynamics, creating popular programs like The Queen’s Code, Making Sense of Men, and The Amazing Development of Men. Her teachings help individuals and couples build healthier, more fulfilling relationships.Connect with Alison Armstrong!https://www.instagram.com/thealisonarmstrongGet Alison's "Thrive Your Life" Webinar for FREE:https://www.alisonarmstrong.com/products/thrive-life.htmlClick on "FOR ME"At check out, enter promo code AlisonThrive2025 (promo code expires 6/30/2026)Find out more about the Extreme Freedom webinar here:https://www.alisonarmstrong.com/extreme_freedom/Visit Her Website To Learn More!http://alisonarmstrong.comCHAPTERS:0:00 – Introduction1:23 – Meet Alison Armstrong4:39 – Andy shares how Alison's viral shame clip affected him5:17 – Alison explains why only honorable people feel shame6:15 – Alison explains the difference between shame and shaming8:28 – Andy asks how Alison understands men so deeply12:29 – Alison talks about healing her relationship with her mother13:46 – How Alison learned about men through workshops and panels14:51 – Alison discusses past lives and remembering being a man16:18 – How she learned to be female by studying men17:28 – Alison explains betrayal when women share a man’s secrets20:06 – Andy shares his story about feeling ashamed for asking for the money he gave his mom22:43 – Alison talks about why mothers worry about their children’s success and future safety28:06 – How parents unintentionally manipulate through fear28:49 – Alison shares her own experience asking her mom for payroll money30:31 – Alison shares what it’s like raising children with her wisdom35:40 – The “Chief of Safety” role in her household37:52 – Parenting without controlling or dictating a child’s life41:00 – The importance of giving kids privacy and their own domain43:42 – How single men can apply Alison’s teachings48:03 – Why you must identify what someone needs to contribute to you50:01 – Why Alison’s son changed how he dated and wouldn’t marry someone without a voice54:34 – Andy asks if amazing people like Alison struggle to find partners59:09 – Choosing a partner: evaluating behaviors, values, and alignment1:00:10 – Why being “whole and free” is the top requirement when choosing a partner1:01:10 – How her current partner met nearly all her criteria from day one1:02:47 – Allison explains how honoring her boundaries changed her partner’s health and habits1:05:14 – What is your purpose in seeking a partner?1:06:32 – What you need to give vs. what you need to receive1:07:43 – Why women expect commitment after nine months1:09:15 – The importance of practicing boundaries everywhere1:10:48 – Andy asks about Alison’s contagious presence and energy1:11:51 – How studying men made her fall in love with men1:12:18 – Alison talks about the potency of will and dwelling in love1:14:09 – Alison explains how The Queen’s Code began with studying men1:14:55 – Being different versions of herself while staying authentic1:18:07 – How men can bring out the best in women1:23:14 – Andy shares a story about a girl he met at a party1:25:55 – How projection ruins communication between men and women1:28:04 – The surprising “strength signals” women look for in men1:29:45 – Alison shares how to balance chemistry and connection in a relationship1:30:37 – Connect with Alison1:30:46 – Outro