That's What She Said: Why Sex Is More Than Sex

September 22 - That’s What She Said: Why Sex Is More Than Sex Synopsis: Friendship and sex are seldom described in the same sentence. In many ways, sex has been stripped away from any type of meaningful relationship or seen as an expression of deep, loving friendship. If we listen to the woman in Song of Songs, we hear the voice of a woman who is desperately in love with a man who is closer than any friend she has. We hear her love, her passion, and her desire for Solomon, but more importantly, we hear her heart, a heart of deep friendship. The book The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work states, “The determining factor in whether wives feel satisfied with sex, romance, and passion in their marriage is, by 70 percent, the quality of the couple’s friendship. For men, the determining factor is, by 70 percent, the quality of the couple’s friendship. So men and women come from the same planet after all.” Our culture seems content to separate sex from friendship, but the image we see in Songs of Songs is an image of two deep, loving friends who are representative of God’s deep, loving friendship with his people, and as such, they remind every married couple of the intent of sex as found in God’s relationships with us. Text: Song of Songs 7:10-8:4 – An invitation to belong to one another, to travel together, to serve each other in deep relationship as an expression of great love and friendship.