The 10 biggest mistakes people make with desire discrepancies

This is THE episode to share. After 100 episodes and years of working with couples on mismatched desire, I'm breaking down the 10 mistakes that keep you stuck—from obligation sex and taking rejection personally, to making every touch sexual and believing someone is broken. These patterns make total sense, but they backfire hard. If you or someone you know is dealing with a desire gap, start here. You'll learn what's keeping things stuck and exactly what to do instead.The 10 mistakes:Trying to 'fix' your partner instead of the dynamicHaving obligation sex to keep the peaceTaking rejection personallyBelieving scheduling sexy time is not "natural"Being defensive about sexual feedbackMaking all physical affection have to lead to sexChasing your partner (pursuit-distance trap)Not knowing your own bodyExpecting only spontaneous desire to be "real"Believing someone is broken or wrongFor each one, you'll learn why it backfires and exactly what to do instead.Send Laura Fan MailGet my free guide: Get Out of Your Head: A Starter Guide to Releasing the Pressure, Shame, and "Shoulds" Around Intimacy at https://laurajurgens.com/guideMore links: Substack at https://laurajurgens.substack.com/Wheel of Erotic emotions, go to: https://laurajurgens.com/wheelCopyright notice: All content in this podcast is copyrighted and copying, scraping, data mining, or using the content to train AI is prohibited.