EPISODE · Jun 5, 2026 · 21 MIN
The 3 Practices That Train Your Will to Choose God
from The Forge with Tomas Mones-Cazon · host The Forge with Tomas Mones-Cazon
Most men are losing the interior battle before the day even begins. Not because they lack discipline. Not because they don't care. But because everything around them has been engineered to gratify the will, and they have never learned to mortify it.This video is about true denial of self. Not the surface-level version. The real thing. The kind Christ demands when he says take up your cross and follow me.The modern world has removed almost every form of natural friction from daily life. Hot showers on demand. Hyper-palatable food. Endless entertainment. Pornography. You only need to be struggling with one of these things for your interior gaze to be pulled away from God. Most men are dealing with several at once.There's a reason the religious life requires three vows. Chastity. Poverty. Obedience. Each one strips away a layer of attachment. Each one asks more of you than the last. A man can be living chastely, detached from material comfort, and still be constantly gratifying his will in the small things. The scrolling. The entertainment. The avoidance of prayer. That's where most men actually are, and they don't even know it.The hardest vow is obedience because it requires you to surrender the will itself. And that's the crux of the whole thing.If you're chasing holiness but still running from friction, this is the video you need to watch.In this video I cover:-why modern comfort is the primary obstacle to the spiritual life-the three vows and what they reveal about self-denial-why mortifying the will is the crux of true holiness-cold showers, the rosary, and fasting as tools for forming the will-how to consecrate everyday friction as an offering to ChristThe Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legion FFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/ 1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/forgedFind out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones0:00 True Denial of Self0:47 Self Denial Is Not Optional2:07 Modern Comfort Kills Spiritual Growth3:27 You Must Sit in the Friction5:15 Why You Struggle to Pray6:10 What We Learn from Religious Vows7:37 The Vow of Poverty Explained8:17 The Vow of Obedience9:57 Mortifying the Will in Modern Life11:00 Three Tools for Self Denial11:44 Cold Showers Train the Will14:04 The Rosary as Mortification16:42 Fasting as Extended Self Denial17:37 Consecrating Your Disciplines to Christ19:10 Examine Where You Flee the Friction19:35 Practical Challenge Cold Showers21:03 Legion and Coaching Offer
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Most men are losing the interior battle before the day even begins. Not because they lack discipline. Not because they don't care. But because everything around them has been engineered to gratify the will, and they have never learned to mortify it.This video is about true denial of self. Not the surface-level version. The real thing. The kind Christ demands when he says take up your cross and follow me.The modern world has removed almost every form of natural friction from daily life. Hot showers on demand. Hyper-palatable food. Endless entertainment. Pornography. You only need to be struggling with one of these things for your interior gaze to be pulled away from God. Most men are dealing with several at once.There's a reason the religious life requires three vows. Chastity. Poverty. Obedience. Each one strips away a layer of attachment. Each one asks more of you than the last. A man can be living chastely, detached from material comfort, and still be constantly gratifying his will in the small things. The scrolling. The entertainment. The avoidance of prayer. That's where most men actually are, and they don't even know it.The hardest vow is obedience because it requires you to surrender the will itself. And that's the crux of the whole thing.If you're chasing holiness but still running from friction, this is the video you need to watch.In this video I cover:-why modern comfort is the primary obstacle to the spiritual life-the three vows and what they reveal about self-denial-why mortifying the will is the crux of true holiness-cold showers, the rosary, and fasting as tools for forming the will-how to consecrate everyday friction as an offering to ChristThe Legion: Stop doing this alone, join a brotherhood of Christian men who will hold you to the standard you already know you should be living. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/the-legion FFTK: Come train, pray, and build with men in person. → http://fitforthekingdom.com.au/ 1:1 Coaching: If you're tired of knowing exactly what you need to do and still not doing it, apply to work with me directly. → https://fitforthekingdom.com.au/forgedFind out more: links to all my social media profiles and content can be found here. → https://linktr.ee/tomas.mones0:00 True Denial of Self0:47 Self Denial Is Not Optional2:07 Modern Comfort Kills Spiritual Growth3:27 You Must Sit in the Friction5:15 Why You Struggle to Pray6:10 What We Learn from Religious Vows7:37 The Vow of Poverty Explained8:17 The Vow of Obedience9:57 Mortifying the Will in Modern Life11:00 Three Tools for Self Denial11:44 Cold Showers Train the Will14:04 The Rosary as Mortification16:42 Fasting as Extended Self Denial17:37 Consecrating Your Disciplines to Christ19:10 Examine Where You Flee the Friction19:35 Practical Challenge Cold Showers21:03 Legion and Coaching Offer
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